- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
…for our wedding gift. Well, not a NEW car, but another used car in the $7-8k range. My FI’s car has like 205,000 miles on it, and it’s not exactly reliable. We haven’t ever had any issues with it breaking down or anything, but in the winter time his car has trouble starting sometimes & has to be jumped, and there’s a few other minor issues too. So, I agree, he definitely needs a new car at some point in the near-ish future.
His parents said it would be a “wedding gift” for “both of us.”.. I feel terrible for feeling this way, but I feel like, no, it’s not a wedding gift for both of us, it’s just a gift for FI, since from what I’ve gathered looking around at used car prices, a car that’s 7-8k is going to be at about the same quality as mine.. it’s going to have right around 100k miles, maybe a little less if you’re lucky.. So I feel like if we have 2 cars that are the same quality, and we both need 2 cars to get to work, who’s going to drive my car? Me. Who’s going to drive the other car? FI.
I guess I just feel like if they want to give us 7 or 8k for our wedding gift, in some way shape or form, it would be AWESOME if they could give us $1k for our honeymoon and we could front the other $1k. But we definitely can’t afford anything over 1k for ah oneymoon, since we are moving this summer shortly before the wedding, and I’m still in grad school & he’s working a crappy hourly job that he hates. I feel a 7 or 8,000 gift is super generous, but it’s supposed to be a gift for both of us, and i feel like I’m not going to see any of the benefits of it, whereas just $1k for a honeymoon would be awesome & using the rest towards a car would really benefit FI too.
I initially figured oh we’ll just go on a late honeymoon after I start working & we have more money, it’s no big deal… but hearing everyone else I know who’s getting married this summer talk about booking the honeymoon etc.. makes me a little envious, especially since I feel like FI and I don’t do anything together anymore besides watch tv. He hates his job & it’s really stressful so he never wants to do anything on the weekends besides relax & play his computer games. He’s always been more of a homebody than me, but I feel like it’s been to the extreme lately. Also doesn’t help we’re in a small town with not a whole lot to do, he hates the town, and doesn’t really like driving all that much so driving an hour to the closest major city isn’t really his idea of a good time. I feel like the honeymoon would be a much needed getaway for the 2 of us to spend quality time together actually doing something besides watching our tv shows together, especially after the craziness of me graduating in May, moving prob 10 hours away in either May or June, and having the wedding in June, and me starting my career soon after the wedding.
I guess I’m just feeling selfish since they’re offering such a generous gift, but since it’s not really benefitting me at all, I’m not really thrilled about it.
Any thoughts/advice? I don’t know if I should say something to FI about using part of the money towards a honeymoon or just keep my mouth shut since he needs a new car & the more money he can have towards it, the better?