- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
FI is the youngest of 4. He has a brother 3 years older than him, then a 10 year gap to his sister, and then their oldest brother a year older than her. And his siblings are constantly arguing amongst themselves. Always over trivial, petty crap.
FI, bless him, is always trying to be the voice of reason. His brothers have always hated each other, and his sister has decided to start playing games and pitting one against the other – and dragging FI into it as well. This time, he’s telling them all to pull their heads in and stop being idiots, without much success.
He came home furious last night after visiting his older brother and sister. They’d tried to start an argument with him and he just sat there getting angrier and angrier until he left.
I have trouble relating to him on this because I’m an only child, and I grew up alone, essentially. My cousins are all a lot older than me. I don’t even know where to start.
What broke my heart last night was when FI said “I’m glad my parents are dead so they don’t have to see this.” FI’s dad passed away in 2004 (I never met him) and his mum passed away in 2009. I said that if his mum was still alive she’d have ripped them all a new one and they wouldn’t be behaving like this. She was the voice of reason – which he’s trying to be. I told FI all he can do is tell them to leave him out of it if they’re going to continue, and then step away. I find it sad that FI feels the need to “parent” his siblings – though I do understand his reasons for it, especially now both his parents are gone.
Not really looking for advice, I guess I just wanted to get this off my chest. I know that his side will never be able to play “happy families”. I just hope that the two of us can keep it together and be able to build our own happy family.