Post # 1
I know that this is a good problem to have, and I’m not meaning to complain at all.
I talked to FI this morning, and it turns out we are having five showers (my family is throwing two–we’re kind of a big group for one, FI’s family is throwing one, my work is throwing one, and his work is now throwing one). We are having two showers this weekend, with the two work ones coming later this month.
FI is concerned that many of our mid-range gifts will have already been given to us. Glancing at our registry, this is a strong possibility. If they aren’t by the time our work ones hit, there is a good chance that they will be fairly wiped out by the time we get to his family one. FI suggests that we go back and register for a few more middle of the line items, but I’m not sure if there’s anything else that we really need.
I don’t want to stick his family with either a bunch of smaller items or else a few higher priced ones, but I also don’t want them to just get us stuff for the sake of getting us stuff.
Any recommendations? Like I said, I really don’t mean to sound gift grabby, selfish, or anything…we both feel incredibly loved and spoiled by all of this. We just don’t want to anger anybody by choices they’d have.
Post # 3
Wait until after your first 2 showers to reasesss. Some people will go in on gifts together, some will buy you a basket of small gifts, and some will go off registry. I would also consider having one shower be gift-free, or a donation gift. Or maybe a themed shower, like in lieu of a gift people bring a card with a favorite recipe.
Post # 4
I find people tend to go in together for a work shower. Maybe it’s possible to mention one of your higher priced gifts/ a group gift politely if an organizer asks you about what you’re interested in for the shower.
Post # 5
Totally agree with both PPs, maybe add a few more then reassess closer to your showeras, can you stalk your registry to see what’s been purchased?
Also, I agree that co-wokers usually go in together for bigger items.
Enjoy all of it though…you lucky-ducky bride! Isn’t this fun? lol
Post # 6
You didn’t say how much you registered for but the woman helping us in Bed Bath and Beyond the other day said to register for probably 3 times the amount of guests you have coming. I would maybe start there since you are havintg so many showers and then like PP’s said, reassess.
Post # 7
Register for more stuff! And stuff outside of the ordinary appliances and bedding and bath stuff. Register for things like boardgames, video games and controllers, christmas ornaments, itunes gift cards, tools. I went to a wedding shower once where everyone had to bring a spice starting with a certain letter, to help build up the brides spice drawer. Stuff to stock a bar. Register for sporting equipment, camping equipment (if you camp) and for blu rays or dvds or cd’s you want. Tell people to give you restaurant gift cards or movie passes. It’s nice to have those for days when you can’t afford to eat or go out as much. If you or your fiance have a craft or hobby you do, ask for tools or supplies for that.
Post # 8
@SandyThePoet: These are great.
Also consider even more things that are a bit more odd: we registered for and received lobster crackers and butter pots, because there’s a family tradition of lobster on Dec 24th.
What about a “wine cellar” or just wine collection one as well.