Post # 1
So a large group of friends and I have been planning on going camping for the weekend for like a month. I am a planner/organizer so I was told everyone that as long as I get paid back I can go buy all the food and such. Well I bought food, then turns out 5 more people were invited by another friend. So back to the store. Now 3 of them backed out and I’m out the money for the food they were supposed to help share. Grrrr. Sorry, it just really irritated me that they dont have the courtesy to tell me, and not two hours before we leave that they aren’t coming!!
Post # 3
Wow, that’s so frustrating! Is there any way to get paid back for the food you bought? It just doesn’t seem fair for you to have to cover others when they decide to back out at the last minute.
And what is it about camping that turns people into total flakes? I went on a campus trip with some girlfriends a few years back, and one basically didn’t do anything! She didn’t help find a place to go, book the trip, buy food, or bring communal supplies. She was supposed to get the key to our friend’s garage so we could borrow his tent, but she never got back to my other friend and me. We had to go all the way down to his house, find a kindly neighbor to let us in, and drag the tent back ourselves. She seems so surprised when she showed up with the key the next day, and we no longer needed it. She also ignored our calls/texts the day of to help us carry all of camping stuff (we all lived in a city without cars and had to lug everything from our apartments to the busstop). And to top it all off, she was a terribly unqualified camper. Although I’ve been camping before and actually know what I’m doing, she didn’t listen to any advice, and she actually insisted on keeping cooked meat in our tent overnight. Racoons literally got into our tent! It was an unforgettable trip, to say the least!
Post # 4
I totally hear you. That’s why we stopped throwing our annual New Years party. The first year it was awesome and we were actually worried about having too many people but said, f-it the more the merrier! Then, the second year everyone ‘committed’ again so we bought all the food and booze for 30 people and only like 15 showed up. We were so mad, we had spent all that time and money preparing for a large crowd and everyone had an excuse at the last second.
I can’t wait until I start throwing dinner parties.. Iknow this same thing will happen..
Post # 5
Don’t get me started. I’ve been stood up for lunch (30 minute notice) twice in a row by a friend
Post # 6
And this is why I refuse to ever organize anything. People suck.
Post # 7
Oh I have a friend that is the paragon of flaky. We’ll make plans to meet up an hour from now and I’ll sit on the couch waiting like a fool. 3 hrs later I’ll get a text “oh I fell asleep”. She couldn’t be bothered to show up to celebrate my birthday or my housewarming party (1st time home buyers.. and it took us months and months of frustration before we finally closed). Makes me wonder if she’ll make it to the wedding. So anyway.. she’s an unreliable friend. But her biggest “flake job” was for her birthday trip. She always mentioned how she wanted to be in Vegas when she turned 21. So one night, about 1 year before her bday, we decided let’s just do it, lets buy the tickets right now. Our mutual friend wanted to earn miles so she offered to buy the plane tickets on her credit card (4 tickets total) and we’d pay her cash. We each had a whole year to pay off our $200 plane ticket. We were getting closer to the date of the trip and everyone had paid except for Friend Flaky. The day of the trip she sends me a facebook message that she’s not in the mood to go anymore. I couldn’t believe it. This is for HER birthday. After numerous calls trying to convince her to come, many of which went straight to voicemail, we said screw begging this girl to go to Vegas for her birthday! It was so frustrating. We even tried to give the ticket to another friend, but the ticket was nontransferable. So the 3 of us went and had an amazing time.
The best part is that she didn’t think she needed to pay for the ticket. Apparently it was unfair for her to pay since she didn’t go. Uh sorry honey, that’s a $200 fine for not keeping your word. She did eventually pay it all back over the next year or so.
But I learned my lesson. I only plan anything with her if it’s within a 10 mile radius.