(Closed) Flakey "friends" anyone?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How flakey are your friends??
    Very!!! : (11 votes)
    29 %
    Somewhat : (17 votes)
    45 %
    Not at all : (10 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I know what you mean. I think it’s fairly typical in situations like this, though.  People don’t want to buy a gift and they don’t want to spend all day with people they don’t know.  It is upsetting, though, because it is a party that is in celebration of you.  RSVPing and then changing their minds last minute is really selfish. 

     

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    That’s really annoying. Do you think they said they would go before they realized it’s an all day event? It was really nice of you to say they didn’t have to go all day but I would probably feel more awkward doing that than just skipping out. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    8316 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    OK I am going to flip this- how would you feel if your friend thought that every reason you gave for not attending something was made up? Not nice huh?

    Now I know that your wedding is the most important thing in your life right now but unfortunately it is not going to everyone elses and especially people that may not be heavily invested in your life (since you refer to them as work friends rather than just friends). People have busy lives and each individual need to prioritise the events in their lives to what is most important to them (other friends, money, event situations etc).

    Try not to take it personally and enjoy the day with those who do make it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I love my friends, but they are really flaky.  This is why I’m not planning on having any type of pre wedding parties or showers.  My family all lives far away and wouldn’t be able to attend any events other than the wedding, so if I tried to plan anything local I feel I would just be disspointed.  I’d rather just be happy that they come to my wedding!

    Post # 7
    Member
    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I was a “flakey” friend to my longest friend when her bachelorette party came around, but then again I was very sick and scared with a “mystery disease” that hadn’t yet been properly diagnosed. I was constantly stressed, and felt I’d drag the mood down of the party, but more importantly, I was TERRIFIED of having severe symptoms out in public, and needing to go to the hospital. So I had to decline the invite. Sucked, but it was all true. I’d be hurt if my friend called me a “flake” over something like that. Sometimes it isn’t all garbage, but then again you know your friends best.

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