- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
FH and I have a handful of friends who are flaky- good, fun people, who when we’re with them are great, but are either bad at calling back, nearly impossible to make plans with, and/or bail frequently or without much notice. Several of these people have depression, and FH and I disagree on how much latitude to give them. I think for a good long-time friend, I am willing to put up with a lot, particularly if they are going through a hard time. The challenge is relatively new friends. For example, one new friend who we know is clinically depressed keeps not responding and bailing on me when we make plans just the two of us, but when I invite her to work dinners (we are in the same field and there is a lecture with a great free meal), she NEVER bails. I am trying to be understanding since she is depressed (slowly starting to work on getting treatment), but it is annoying when she flakes on me, but not when I get her great free food. (I know that money is not the issue, FH thinks it is just depression.) Thanks!