Post # 1
So bee’s, I’m having kind of a plate crisis, cup, flatware crisis…
So, we’re having a cocktail hour, buffet style dinner, and the wedding cake for dessert…
It seems a little silly to me to buy real glass, ceramic plates if we’re doing buffett (what if they go back for seconds they’ll have to take a dirty plate etc)
So I guess my only option is fake plates? Do you lovely bee’s have any suggestions? I’ve been to smartyhadaparty and I kind of like these…
but then, do I use fake glasses too? Also flatware, would it be tacky to have the silver ones that are just plastic?
I’m so confused…
Post # 3
@lolita39: I always take my own plate back to the buffet if I want seconds of anything. It actually makes me laugh when people who are otherwise so “green” , wait for the staff to remove their plate,so they can get a clean one form the buffet table. All of a sudden they are too special to do what they would do at home?
I would have to know more about your wedding to give a recommendation that was specific to your situation. I am not against using plastic plates and cutlery in some situations.
Have you checked out the cost of rentals?
Post # 4
@julies1949: Well, we’re definitely on a budget, so one of my moms friend who is a party planner will be walking around and putting things in the trash as needed… there will be a trashcan that everyone can throw away their things as well… So it’s not really anyones job except for the guest to throw their own plate away (that is if we use plastic or bamboo)…
I have looked into the rentals. There really aren’t a lot of choices where I live, but they are expensive. I feel like I might as well go to the dollar store where they have real glass plates and cups for a dollar and just have them. But then, what do you do with 100 glass plates? That’s a ridiculous idea.
I just wondered if it would seem tacky to have plastic at the wedding. I’m not trying to throw a formal wedding or anything, just a nice dinner…
I would love to have the real stuff, I just can’t really afford it PLUS the waitstaff who would be cleaning it all up.
🙁 boo, I’m the worst bride ever. I can’t make a decision to save my life!
Post # 5
@lolita39: You can always sell or donate the plates after the wedding if you buy real ones.
I try very hard not to use the word “tacky” as it is very judgemental, in my opinion.
Having said that, if I were inviting people to be dressed up on a Saturday evening for a wedding dinner, I would probably try to use real dishes, flatware etc.
For a more casual outdoor barbeque, I think bamboo, plastic or other disposable plates would work.
The downside of using real plates is that you will have to make arrangements for them to be washed after the wedding. Is there a dishwasher in your venue so the staff could do this for you? Or, someone who would agree to take them home and do them for you?
Have you seen the clear glass plates at the Dollar Stores? They can be used like this with a doily underneath that acts as a placecard.
Post # 6
@julies1949: Yeah, I’ve looked at the dollar store plates! I like them, they even have a style that would match my theme… I could donate them or sell them back. But the problem arises that there would have to be someone to pick them up when everyone is done so I would have to hire someone… I’m not sure how difficult that would be…
We’re getting married in a barn, it’s updated and really nice with a full kitchen, but there is no staff. They will set up the tables how we want them, as in put the table where it goes, but we do all the decorating and all of the clean up…
It was what I could afford. So someone would have to clean them if I did go that route. I just didnt want to have to hire anyone…Or stress out any close family members anymore than I have to with clean up.
Post # 7
@lolita39: Then I would happily use bamboo plates. I would stick with something more onviously rustic looking so it would look intentional. I think the plastic plates in your link are a bit modern looking for a barn venue.
I would use wooden cutlery.
Post # 8
We bought 168 ceramic plates from the dollar store ($1 each). We had a buffet, and people used the same plates for seconds and thirds. Our reception site would also charge us extra for excessive trash (that’s not very green…).
The caterer and my mom washed the plates, and we already sold them to another bride (I got married 2 weeks ago)