Flower Girl Age?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I ended up not having a flower girl or ring bearer but when I was considering having them, I was going to select a 9 year old girl and a 13 year old boy. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think flower girls are for the younger age group. It’s more of a cutesy role.

My daughter will be 9 and I thought that age was too old for a flower girl. She is going to be a junior bridesmaid.

I will have two flower girls – My younger daughter will be 5 and my neice will be 2. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

Our flower girl was 7.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

TinaNYC55:  9 is close to the cut off.  You could always ask her what she thinks would be a good role for her.  She may want to be a flower girl anyway or she may want to dress more like a big girl and be a junior bridesmaid.  It really depends on the kid.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

My flower girl was 9 and it was perfect. As far as her outfit, I tried to make it the same color scheme as the bridesmaids.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m having three flower girls: two will be five and the oldest will be 8. We might have another two girls if they are mature enough at three. Waiting to see as our wedding is over a year away! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

NovaGrey:  We did that too

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

TinaNYC55:  I am having two. Our daughter (who will be two weeks shy of her second birthday), and our friend’s daughter (both her parents are in the bridal party, so it wouldn’t be complete without having our girls who are 6 months apart in the wedding).

So long as the flower girl is excited, go for it. I have a junior bridemaid that is 9. I did it because she is a very special part of my fiance’s family and I adore her. She struggled after the birth of our daughter, so I wanted her to know she was loved and important.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

When I think “flower girl” I picture age 2-4 ish. But it doesn’t really matter too much, in my opinion. I would say it is defintiely more of a cutesy role which some 9 year olds will still love, while others would not.

Just ask her what role she would prefer.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

TinaNYC55:  I don’t think 9 is too old. My twin nieces are 10 and were our flower girls 🙂

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My niece was a 9year old reader in a wedding.  She’s a ham so all eyes on her, without some cutesy dress was perfect.  Plus she reads very well and has no stage fright. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

TinaNYC55:  I know typically they are really young, like 6-7 at oldest? That said, I’m having one that is going to be around 8 I think? I say if you want a girl to be a flower girl, have her be a flower girl! No worlds are going to end, and if the girl would enjoy it, let her do it. 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

TinaNYC55:  My daughter is 8 and she would be very upset if she was not the flower girl.

One of my cousins got married a couple of years ago and had my son and one of her husbands cousins as flower girl and ringer bearer and they were 12.

When my aunt and uncle got married in the 80’s, they did not have any children in their wedding. My cousin and I got to give out programs and favors and we were 8 or 9. But the flower girls, 6 of them, were grown women. They danced up the aisle like some kind of lyrical dance, and threw the petals. So I guess that answers the age and more than one question.

ETA: My daughter wants to be the flower girl because she has been overlooked for every other wedding that has happened because first she was too young and now people think she is too old.

I dont think you asked, but I saw some other bees mention it, they are wearing petticoat skirts, like this White Pettiskirt

except in pink. All 3 of our girls are and they are 8, 10 and 12. The 12 year old, who belongs to my FI from his 1st marriage, will stand next to her daddy and hers will be ivory like the guys shirts. All three of them will wear denim shirts with these skirts.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  MrsUPS.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Mine’s 19. You do you.

The only time I think it’s age inappropriate is when they’re too young to throw the flower petals. It’s like, there’s one function of having a flower girl, and so many people have babies, which makes no sense to me.

9 is perfectly fine so long as she wants to do it.

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