Post # 1
Hi all, this is my first post here. Getting married in June and my two nieces are my flower girls (they are sisters, and at the time of the wedding will be 3.5 and 5.5.) Is this a good age? I’m pretty certain the oldest one will be fine, and the younger one takes her cues from her older sister. Both of their parents are in the wedding but will be going down the aisle first, so they will waiting at the back of the church with my dad and I (their grandfather and aunt, obviously), and then just have to walk to their mom. (or dad. whatever gets them to the end!) Does this seem reasonable at their age? They’re smart girls, but I’ve never seen them before a crowd. My brother’s in-laws (their other grandparents) will also be in attendance, should I seat them half-way down as a mile marker? The girls came with the group of bridesmiads to the bridal shop and tried on flower girl dresses and were very thrilled to show off and twirl in them outside the try-on room.
I guess i’m just looking for what to expect from others who had flower girls this age. I’m definitely having them in the wedding!
Also, do flower girls go ahead of the maid of honor, or between the Maid/Matron of Honor and the bride?
Post # 3
Traditionally they are the last ones to go, right before the bride, but you can do something different if you choose. Ours were pretty little (14 mos. and 18 mos.) so we had them walk hand-in-hand with the maid & matron of honor and the best man & a groomsman.
Those ages should be totally fine – it depends more on the kids’ individual personalities, really. Shy kids of any age have a harder time with being in a wedding, but if the 5 year old is okay and the 3 year old will go with her big sister, you should have no problem.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My cousin was 7 when she was a flower girl in my Aunt/Uncle’s wedding years ago. The rehearsal went ok but when it came time for her to walk down for the actual wedding she freaked out, well not freaked out she didn’t make a scene or anything but basically refused to walk down and became more and more nervous as guests arrived. I was a candle lighter with my other cousin (her sister who I think was 9 or so). My other cousin, the sister, ended up having to stand in as flower girl. Then after the wedding my cousin says “I’m ready to be flower girl now” lol.
I have seen younger girls do just fine though. Like PP said it depends on the shyness of the child. If she follows her sister I think she’ll do just fine. Just if she doesn’t want to walk in front of all those people be a little flexible with her :).
Post # 5
Five and a half seems great. I’m going to assume that she is or will already have been to kindergarten or nursery school by that point, and will be doing well at following rules and playing well with others. As long as she’s not shy (and it doesn’t sound like she is), you should be fine. Three and half is a little on the young side, but not as young as I’ve seen. Again — if she’s a calm kid and not shy, she should be able to make it through the duties.
Post # 6
My flower girls were 3, 5, and 7, and they did fine. The five-year-old was totally responsible for the three-year-old, too (the youngest was in a wheelchair, and the two older ones were pushing her), and even though they didn’t even speak the same language, she stepped up to make sure that both she and the little one made it down the aisle with no problems. 🙂
Like PPs said, it depends on the individuals, but I think those ages are fine in general.