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    MorkieLove    November 6, 2010  

    Hi there my wedding is in 5 months and i just got the news that my cousins daughter can not be in the wedding. He is overseas and his wife and daughter were just going to come. It is a destination wedding so when i asked them initially ( 1 year ago) they did say yes and i kept explaning who it will be expensive to fly to the island and so on. But they would keep telling me absolutley not we will def. be there. ...Now what? I would feel terrible asking someone else now to be the flower girl , i wouldnt want them to think they are second best.. what do you think? should i just not have one?

     
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    Moose1209       Nashville, TN

    I would just skip having one rather than try to find a replacement.  We didn't have a flower girl in our wedding... it's no big deal.  You may even just want to still list her as your flower girl in your program and note that she's not in attendance.

     
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    heather25       New York

    Do whatever you want.  If you want a lil flower girl there?  I don't think its like a bridesmaid and you have 5 months.  You will be fine.  My only advice is, make sure you only ask someone who's parents you planned on inviting to the wedding and who you know will come.

     
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    serasvictoria    August 7, 2010  

    I wouldn't worry about it. We aren't having a ring bearer because we don't know any little boys around my nieces' age. In all honesty I can't even remember who had flower girls/ring bearers in their ceremony and who didn't (except the one where there were 16 flower girls and no ring bearers. It was weird).

     
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    MorkieLove    November 6, 2010  

    Thanks so much girls

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    I'd just skip the flowergirl. 

    Sorry you're dealing with this!

     
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    shaydenise    October 30, 2010  

    I'd skip it unless there is actually someone you want to be the flower girl.

     
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    mtbutterflyrose    August 3, 2010   montana

    i would just ask someone else to be flower girl :-) 

     
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    ChiCat    July 17, 2010   Chicago

    5 months is enough time that I don't think the person would think they're second string.  If there's someone you want to ask, then ask.  But I wouldn't just ask someone random bc they're the right age, and you've gotten used to the idea of having a flower girl.

     
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    Miss Peace    November 5, 2010   New York

    Unless there is another little girl you would love to ask, I would skip it!

     

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