(Closed) Flower girl but no ring bearer?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We’re having three flower girls and no ring bearer. I just don’t really see the reason for one, and we have three nieces. Our best man and maid of honor will be holding our rings.

Post # 4
34 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re doing the same. FI’s niece will be the flower girl but her brother is almost 10..just a tad too old for a ringbearer. Ditto Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man holding rings

I’ve also been to weddings without a flower girl or ring bearer

Post # 5
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We’re doing exactly what you’re doing (one flower girl & no ring bearer).  I think it is absolutely acceptable. We wanted to keep the bridal party small and we don’t have a little boy in our immediate family so we went without.  If there were a child close enough to us we might have gone with a ring bearer.

Funny thing is I’ve asked people your same question very early on (vendors/friends) and they commented that no ring bearer is a smart choice… little boys can be very antsy when you put them in a tux 🙂

That = one less thing to worry about!

Post # 6
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

It is okay to do whatever you want. I am having a ring bearer and no flower girl.

Post # 7
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re in the same boat…1 flower girl and no ring bearer. I don’t see it as being a problem. We haven’t decided who will hold the rings…but probably a Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen.

Post # 8
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

we’re having a flower girl but no ring bearer. we’re also having the flower girl’s older sister (13) walk with her down the aisle as a jr bridesmaid to keep the flower girl (who is just 3) from stopping and talking to people as she’s walking down. she’s just so social! 🙂

Post # 9
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Totally acceptable! FH’s neice is our flowergirl amd we don;t have any special little boys in our life, so we don’t have a ring bearer. The Bridesmaid or Best Man will hold our rings 🙂

Post # 10
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We have a flower girl and th Bridesmaid or Best Man will hold the rings.

Post # 11
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

just the flower girl as well!  I assume one or two of our siblings will hold our rings

Post # 12
98 posts
Worker bee

I agree with everyone else.  My sister just had a flower girl and it didn’t seem weird at all.  The best man and maid of honor held the rings.

Post # 13
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Absolutely acceptable!!!

(I’m having a Ringbearer and he still won’t be holding onto the real rings… the Best Man will be doing that).

Post # 14
1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m doing the opposite – I have 2 ring bearers but no flower girl. The only little girl in either of our families isn’t going to be able to make it, and I didn’t want to ask someone who wasn’t close to the family to be a part of the wedding party just to have a cute kid in the pictures!

I think what you’re doing is totally fine – in fact, most people don’t have their ring bearer actually carry the real rings, anyway. In all the wedding I’ve been in, the best man/maid of honor took care of the actual ring, and the ring bearer just carried a pillow with fake rings attached to it. Its more for the tradition, anyway.

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