Flower girl looks like mini bride

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

Mango817:  If it’s part of your culture and tradition go ahead with your plans.

It’s not part of mine and it does seem a bit creepy- like we are offering up this child as some sort of sacrifice to the wedding gods.

The actual origin:

 This tradition comes from Roman wedding traditions where 10 attendants in the wedding party dressed exactly like the bride and groom to fool evil spirits and keep them away from the actual bride and groom. By having 10 attendants dressed identically to the bride, the evil spirits would not know who was getting married. These 10 were also the lawful witnesses to the marriage. The attendants were generally children because they were considered innocent and therefore less available to being attacked by evil spirits. <br /> <br /> Over time this tradition changed and the mock bride and groom became bridesmaids and ring/train bearers/pages in English speaking countries. Later on, bridesmaids became adults and adult groomsmen were added to weddings in place of children. Children’s roles in American weddings were relegated to flower girl and ring bearer, whereas, in the UK, little girls often still serve as bridesmaids. <br /> <br /> However, in African weddings, there is still often a mock bride or mock bride and groom dressed exactly like the bride and groom to confuse evil spirits.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Who cares what other people think?? 

My flowergirls wore pink and ivory because I wanted them to. I’ve never been to a wedding where they look like mini brides but I haven’t heard people say it creeps them out. I wouldn’t care though.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think it’s an adorable idea. I’ve never seen it done so that the girl resembles the bride but to all the weddings I’ve been to the girls wear white. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you like the idea of your FG looking like a mini bride then go for it! When I was looking for FG dresses I found most of them white. In fact it was hard to find one that wasn’t white or pink! Especially if you have colourful bridesmaids so it’s not like it’s just you and FG as two brides. Actually, there’d be nothing wrong with that either anyway.

I didn’t want my FG in white because I didn’t want her to look like a mini bride. As I said, nothing wrong with it but I didn’t want it. I also didn’t have bridesmaids, just one MOH, so  I thought all white would be very colourless. In the end the dress we found for her was cream but also had a pale gold shimmer going through it.

You say that people don’t find girls dressing like brides on their communion day to be creepy but I actually have always thought that was a bit weird. When my sis made her communion some of the little girls even had veils. Now, it’s cute for a FG but I don’t know, there’s something a bit not right about 10 or so little girls lined up like child brides. I’m sorry, that view might offend some people. I don’t mean to offend anyone.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

miniature bride dress

just a little creepy

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Eh, mine are wearing blue, because I like blue. But at your wedding, yours can wear what you like. Not creepy or weird to me.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’ve always thought that you were supposed to pick a flower girl dressed that sort of mirrored the bride’s dress so I don’t think that’s weird at all. And although I’ve never heard of a flower girl wearing a veil before, if I saw a sweet little girl coming down the aisle wearing that I’d think that she must be the happiest little girl around to feel like a princess and judgemental thoughts would be the furthest thing from my mind.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Mango817:  I agree with you. The first one DOES look creepy, because she has the sexy dress and hair extensions and stuff (reminds me of the pageant toddlers) and the other one is adorable and still looks innocent. I would love watching the second one walk down the aisle. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My sister had her flower girls in dresses identical to hers except they had little straps, and it was adorable.

My personal taste is for flower girls to wear white with a little bit of color and no veil, so that’s what we found. Go with what you love. The only people whose opinions really matter for a detail like this are you, your fiance, and maybe your flower girl and/or her parents.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  ladyamalthea.
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