Flower Girl Problems?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think it would take anything away from your father walking you down the aisle (we had plenty of older men/women–grandmas and grandpas and DH’s father–walk down the aisle), but I do think it could take away from how special the flower girl feels. Do you have any sense for what the flower girl would want? is she shy and might appreciate an escort? Would she like to be the star? 

Ultimately, though, she’s 7 and can walk all by herself if that’s what you choose. Totally up to you, and whatever you choose is the right decision.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What do you want?

A seven year old is perfectly capable of walking down the aisle by herself. She definitely doesn’t need an escort.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@msgoldenbee:  At 7, I wouldn’t, personally, expect a flower girl  be escorted by anyone. She should be able to do the job on her own. Also, the very title “flower girl” suggests a solo role.

I’ll admit to not being very fond of the sort of rigid etiquette that is mainly pointless but it would look slightly odd (unless her grandfather is also given a basket of flowers) for her to be escorted by him. I don’t see where “tacky” comes into it though and it is, with respect, rather silly to suggest that a combination of flower girl and grandfather could be so confused with the bride and her father that they could outshine them.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yeah, at 7 she can make it down the aisle on her own.  I was a 7 year old flower girl for my aunt, and I did!

Do you have a little boy in your life that you can make into a ring bearer?  That might help dissuade your FMIL from the idea of grandpa walking the FG down the aisle…

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@msgoldenbee:  I don’t really see the point of your FFIL walking your flower girl down the aisle. She’s old enough to know what to do on her own. Plus, by your FMIL’s logic – your FFIL would be one more person who doesn’t need to walk down the aisle and take attention away from you. 

And flower girls are NOT tacky. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’ve seen 4 year olds make it down the aisle alone… If she’s old enough to get on a schoolbus in one piece, she shouldn’t need someone to escort her 20 feet down an aisle.

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