Post # 1
My Future mother in law keeps saying that her husband should escort the flower girl, their grand daughter, down the isle. The flower girl will be 7 at the wedding. My mother has a problem with this and thinks that it is tacky and takes away from my father walking me down the isle. She thinks he should be the only older man walking down. I was wondering what other brides think of the sitituation. I don’t want to hurt my mother or fmil feelings over something so silly.
Post # 3
I don’t think it would take anything away from your father walking you down the aisle (we had plenty of older men/women–grandmas and grandpas and DH’s father–walk down the aisle), but I do think it could take away from how special the flower girl feels. Do you have any sense for what the flower girl would want? is she shy and might appreciate an escort? Would she like to be the star?
Ultimately, though, she’s 7 and can walk all by herself if that’s what you choose. Totally up to you, and whatever you choose is the right decision.
Post # 4
What do you want?
A seven year old is perfectly capable of walking down the aisle by herself. She definitely doesn’t need an escort.
Post # 5
@msgoldenbee: At 7, I wouldn’t, personally, expect a flower girl be escorted by anyone. She should be able to do the job on her own. Also, the very title “flower girl” suggests a solo role.
I’ll admit to not being very fond of the sort of rigid etiquette that is mainly pointless but it would look slightly odd (unless her grandfather is also given a basket of flowers) for her to be escorted by him. I don’t see where “tacky” comes into it though and it is, with respect, rather silly to suggest that a combination of flower girl and grandfather could be so confused with the bride and her father that they could outshine them.
Post # 6
Yeah, at 7 she can make it down the aisle on her own. I was a 7 year old flower girl for my aunt, and I did!
Do you have a little boy in your life that you can make into a ring bearer? That might help dissuade your Future Mother-In-Law from the idea of grandpa walking the Flower Girl down the aisle…
Post # 7
@msgoldenbee: I don’t really see the point of your Future Father-In-Law walking your flower girl down the aisle. She’s old enough to know what to do on her own. Plus, by your FMIL’s logic – your Future Father-In-Law would be one more person who doesn’t need to walk down the aisle and take attention away from you.
And flower girls are NOT tacky.
Post # 8
Thanks for replying so quickly! All is excellent advice and such simple solutions that can be mentioned to both my own mother and Future Mother-In-Law.
You are all so brilliant! Thanks for the help!
Post # 9
@Steampunkbride: So amazingly put. Will definitely be sharing your humourous words. Thanks for the laugh.
Post # 10
I’ve seen 4 year olds make it down the aisle alone… If she’s old enough to get on a schoolbus in one piece, she shouldn’t need someone to escort her 20 feet down an aisle.