Post # 1
We can’t have petal inside the church and I think the ring-on-the-pillow idea is silly. Can you think of any alternatives that my nieces and nephews can do during the nuptial mass? I’ve heard of an old Catholic tradition of bringing up gifts for the poor, but not sure what this is. Is it done at the offertory? Is there any specific item that is typically brought up?
Post # 3
It’s obviously up to what your priest will allow, but normally the presentation of gifts for the poor would come with the bread and wine after the homily, not at the processional.
Normally, the flower girl walks down the aisle holding flowers or a basket of flowers but doesn’t throw them (most churches – Catholic or not – that I’ve dealt with do not allow flower girls to throw petals for insurance reasons).
If you don’t want the ring bearer to carry the rings, you could omit him from the wedding or have him escort the flower girl. If he’s an alter server, you could have him perform those duties.
Post # 4
Will you & the Mr. be doing the presentation of roses to The Blessed Mother? If so, you can have the flower girl process with the roses, then hand them off when she gets to the front. The ring bearer can escort her. We will be doing the presentation to Mary, then give roses to the mothers and grandmothers, which brings us to a total of 6 roses for our flower girl to carry up the aisle.
Post # 5
my church doesn’t allow tossing of rose petals, so we had our florist do an arrangement of flowers in her basket which she will just carry down the aisle. If you don’t like the ring pillow idea, you can just have your ring bearer escort your flower girl down the aisle.
Post # 6
Do you already have your cross- and candle- bearers? Of course, that won’t work for really young would-be flower girls and ring bearers, but if they are at the older end of the range, might be a good option.
Post # 7
flower girl can carry a pomander instead
Post # 8
My niece carried a bell and I called her the bellringer.
Post # 9
We can’t toss flowers because of mess and safety issues… The flower girls are getting a wand with streamers and flowers they can wave.
99.9% of people at any wedding don’t actually put the rings on the pillow. Some (if not using a pillow) will use a favorite mini sport ball with bow… or a treasure chest, etc…
Post # 10
We are having the ring bearer carry a stuffed animal (a polar bear since that is the nickname my FI has for me) with the rings tied on around it’s neck with ribbon. And the flower girl is carrying something like this in the shape of a heart!
Post # 11
I plan to have flower girl pass out roses from a basket. As she goes down the aisle, she reaches in and gets a rose(on a stem) and hands it to someone at the end of the aisle, every few feet…….
I have seen it on youtube on several videos of catholic weddings…its common 🙂
Post # 12
We didn’t have ring bearers but our flower girl carried her own little bouquet.
Post # 13
I had 6 of my little cousins in the wedding.
One was a flower girl – again, she didn’t throw petals but she carried a glass basket that my mom had carried in the wedding that had been given to her by her aunt.
One was a ring bearer – he didn’t use a pillow, it was a book actually. And he did carry the real rings. He was 6 and we figured he could handle it.
One carried in the cross at the beginning and end.
One was a altar server.
Two carried in the gifts.
Also, the 3 younger girls passed out programs before the mass.
Post # 14
I like KLP2010’s idea w/ the streamers – so cute!
I am not having a flower girl but I am having a ring bearer. Our wedding is fall inspired and in October so the ring bearer is carrying down a small pumpkin and we will have the rings tied (very securely) to the pumpkin.