Post # 1
My wedding is 9-10-11, and I am starting to plan my wedding party. My dilemma is the ring bearer/flower girl.
Here’s the situation. I have a niece and nephew that are going to be 8 and 9 by the time I get married. I talked to their mother last night and said they would be happy to do it but I may want to go for the “aww cute baby” Flower Girl & Ring Bearer.
Two of my bridesmaids have a lil girl and lil boy that will be 1 year and 6 months by the time I am gettting married.
In ya’lls opnion do you think the lil guys will be able to make it down the aisle or should I incorporate my other cousins in helping them down the aisle? Or just have my cousins do it?
Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated
Post # 3
I would check w/ your Pastor or whomever is marrying you. Our church will not allow anyone under the age of 3
Post # 4
I would probably just stick with the 8 and 9 year olds….especially since they are your neice and nephew and it would probably be more meaningful to your family to include them in the wedding. It might be cute to have the babies as your Flower Girl, Ring Bearer but 1 year and 6 months is very young and as @jtsing noted, some officiants have a minimum age requirement. It might also be rude to your niece and nephew to ask them to carry the babies down the aisle – it might seem to them that the babies are the ones on display.
Post # 5
Thank you ladies for your thoughts. I don’t think of these things and glad to get some new perspective!
Post # 6
If you just really want to include the little ones you can have the two older ones pull the younger ones in a a wagon.
Post # 7
I would have the two older children to participate. Chances are if you use the babies, they can take away from the ceremony… not saying they aren’t well behaved kids, but they will need to be supervised and I’ve seen small kids get embarrased and not be able to do it. Just my opinion though.
Post # 8
I would have your neice and nephew in the wedding and just dress them age appropriate. Your flower girl does not need to be in a dress with tulle, but can wear something more along the lines of a junior bridesmaid. I think that 8 and 9 is perfectly fine and they would love the be in their aunt’s wedding. I personally don’t think the little ones will be able to make it down the aisle and your neice and nephew might be hurt that they weren’t included.
Post # 9
I’d incorporate them all. It will be so cute! I love the wagon idea. And it will mean a lot to their parents, that you’ve chosen to include them.
Post # 10
If it was me, I would stick with the older cousins. I’m OK with babies, but I think they really make sense when they are close family of the bride and groom. I don’t think that babies are a big “cute factor” presence, because they are unpredictable. They could be sleeping down the aisle, or crying or not make it because they had a blow out in their diaper.
Now if you were talking like 4 years olds, I could see that. They can be pretty darn adorable walking down the aisle.
Post # 11
LOl to the blow out in the diaper comment! I think based on the views of you ladies I think I am going to get my cousins to do it 🙂
Post # 12
Like other’s have said, I’d stick with the older kids BUT if you do really want the “cute” factor, I’ve seen some really cute things done with pulling infants in a little wagon (prolly works better if you’re getting married outside!)
Post # 13
Also, are either of your friends kids in the wedding? They could carry them if need be.
Post # 14
I would stick with the 8 and 9 year old. Since they are family, it will be more meaningful! With the younger ones, I could see two potential problems.
1) With their moms being in the wedding party, they may not be as available to help out if a situation would arise with the little ones. In talking with my cousin, she will be sitting in the front row for when her son walks down the aisle (he will be 3.5 at the time). This way, she can get to him if there is a problem. Luckily, her dad/his grandpa will be our officiant, so that may help! 🙂
2) Cost factor. When my mom and dad got married, they asked my dad’s sister and her husband to be in the wedding party, plus had their two kids (who, ironically, the one is the aforementioned cousin) in it. They asked them all because they thought they were being polite, but then they didn’t think about the cost to them for the day.
If neither of these two things are an issue, and you would like to include everyone, go for it! The wagon idea would be really cute :-).