(Closed) Flower Girl / Ring Bearer help!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
4676 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance has three neices and two nephews…  in order to prevent favoring one over the other and give them a chance to all be involved we asked the older two nieces to be Jr BM’s the younger as a flower girl and we are using the two boys as ushers.  I would have a hard time picking in your case.  Can you make an exception to the no kids thing for your neices and nephews? 

Post # 4
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

How old are the boys and girls?

You could always have 2 flower girls come down together.

Then you could have the 2 older boys be ushers and the two younger ones come down together with the rings. 

Post # 7
11343 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think it would be acceptable for you to choose the most age-appropriate children from among siblings and/or cousins to be the flower girl and the ring bearer (or have multiple kids involved as a pp suggested.) However, I would strongly advise against selecting only one child from a particular family to be in your wedding and to attend with his or her parents while NOT inviting that child’s sibling(s) to attend the wedding at all. That would be wrong.

ETA:  I see that you provided additional info while I was crafting and editing my comment, so it seems as if the concern I mentioned is not actually an issue.  I think your ideas for how to incorporate all of the children are good ones.

Post # 8
46 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is a hard one.  We might just skip having flower girls and ring bearers all together. Maybe this would work for you. I have seen pictures of weddings with numerous flower girls, etc. that still look really cute. You could make up an age rule too, to avoid hurt feelings. 

 If we decided on having children play a role in the ceremony, I honestly think we’d pick them based on how outgoing they are.  We have a large wedding, and our most obvious ones to pick, that we see the most,  are so shy that them walking down the aisle probably isn’t even a realistic option.

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