Post # 1
So, I have two nephews whom are 5 and 6, one lives in in another state and another right next to me. I want to have them both as ring bearers since they’re my only nephews and one is like a son to me and the other i never get to see. My FH has two younger cousins who are 4 and 5 and sisters that we want for the flower girls. My questions is…are 2 ring bearers and 2 flower girls just too much??? We just dont feel right choosing one or the other. What do you girls think????
Post # 3
do you want them all to participate in the wedding?
if yes, then it is not too much.
you do what you want to do.
Post # 4
@TaraSondra: My brother and SIL had two of each in the wedding. It looked cute as they walked in pairs down the aisle. It’s not too much and yes include them all. It’ll be special.
Post # 5
Sounds great! DBF’s family is very skewed toward girls (he is the only male in his generation, and the next is all girls so far) we will very likely have 3 flowers girls andno ring bearer. Oldest is DBF’s goddaughter, who we can’t imagine not having. Her sister is only 18 months younger,and we wouldn’t not ask her too. They also have a third sister, 2 years younger, and we would never ask 2 without asking 3. So, 3 or none, lol. My friend also had 3 flower girls, since there happened to be 3 little girls who were all cousins of her now DH.
Post # 6
Thanks girls! I was perfectly fine with it, then I started thinking omg is it too much. I’m letting every little detail get to my head!! 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@TaraSondra: I misread it initially any thought your FH had two cousins and two sisters, and you’d be having four flowergirls! Which would seem maybe a little crowded!
If you’re worried about it though, when my Uncle got married they had my Aunt’s nephew as the page boy (equivalent of ring bearer), but then made my little brother, who was about 7, a junior Usher (or Groomsman) – he loved it, and apparently he was extremely popular with the other Ushers, who spent the rest of the day using him to pick up women, because he looked pretty adorable in his little suit. Could that be an option for your older nephew?
But honestly, they’re so similar in age, and because you’ve got two boys and two girls, it shouldn’t look weird at all.
Post # 8
@TaraSondra: have all 4! I plan on having 4. My cousin has twin boys, so I thought it would be cute for each one to hold a ring. I also have a little girl cousin who is the coolest kid ever, and I’ve wanted her as my flowergirl for awhile now. FI also has a little girl cousin, so I think we might ask her as well.
ETA: when I was 11, my grandpa got remarried and had all of the granddaughters under 12 as flowergirls. there were 6 of us!
Post # 9
@TaraSondra: its your wedding! do what YOU want
I think its cute, i don’t think it is too much at all!
Post # 10
I have four older cousins who each have two children, ranging in age from 2 to 7. We had all eight of them in my wedding in June and everyone told me how cute and sweet they all looked. Three flower girls and five ring bearers. They all looked adorable. I’m just sorry they walked down the aisle ahead of me so I couldn’t really see them. That’s what I’m most looking forward to viewing on my wedding video!
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
We had one flower girl and twin ringbearers. It was totally fine, and they were super cute! It’s definitely doable to have 4, so long as their parents accompany them to the rehearsal and they’re told what to do to help the kids. Happy Wedding!
Post # 12
Just be sure that they are all well behaved and will be up to the task.
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s too much.
Post # 14
Four isn’t too many. If you wanted to have like 7, then I’d think you were nuts, but 2 of each won’t look ridiculous and it means you get to have all the important kids in your life play a role.
Post # 15
We are having 2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers….a brother and sister set frm my side, nd one from his side! We’re excited to include all of them:)
i think you’ll be fine! And personally, I love when there is more than one flower girl…so many cute picture ops:)
Post # 16
I would personally have them walk down in 2s as boy-girl couples because little kids dressed up and walking as couples make me squee.
At my wedding my FG and RB were my little cousins, brother and sister, and I had the older sister hold the younger brother’s hand coming down the aisle, it made him behave extremely well, I could see this just with two pairs for you!