Flower Girls and Ring Bearers

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: What to do....
    Its not a problem having them all! : (33 votes)
    85 %
    4 is a lot! : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Doesn't Matter : (5 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    6166 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    do you want them all to participate in the wedding?

    if yes, then it is not too much.

    you do what you want to do.


    Post # 4
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @TaraSondra:  My brother and SIL had two of each in the wedding.  It looked cute as they walked in pairs down the aisle.  It’s not too much and yes include them all. It’ll be special.

    Post # 5
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Sounds great! DBF’s family is very skewed toward girls (he is the only male in his generation, and the next is all girls so far) we will very likely have 3 flowers girls andno ring bearer. Oldest is DBF’s goddaughter, who we can’t imagine not having. Her sister is only 18 months younger,and we wouldn’t not ask her too. They also have a third sister, 2 years younger, and we would never ask 2 without asking 3. So, 3 or none, lol. My friend also had 3 flower girls, since there happened to be 3 little girls who were all cousins of her now DH.

    Post # 7
    2581 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @TaraSondra:  I misread it initially any thought your FH had two cousins and two sisters, and you’d be having four flowergirls! Which would seem maybe a little crowded!

    If you’re worried about it though, when my Uncle got married they had my Aunt’s nephew as the page boy (equivalent of ring bearer), but then made my little brother, who was about 7, a junior Usher (or Groomsman) – he loved it, and apparently he was extremely popular with the other Ushers, who spent the rest of the day using him to pick up women, because he looked pretty adorable in his little suit. Could that be an option for your older nephew?


    But honestly, they’re so similar in age, and because you’ve got two boys and two girls, it shouldn’t look weird at all.

    Post # 8
    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @TaraSondra:  have all 4! I plan on having 4. My cousin has twin boys, so I thought it would be cute for each one to hold a ring. I also have a little girl cousin who is the coolest kid ever, and I’ve wanted her as my flowergirl for awhile now. FI also has a little girl cousin, so I think we might ask her as well.

    ETA: when I was 11, my grandpa got remarried and had all of the granddaughters under 12 as flowergirls. there were 6 of us!

    Post # 9
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @TaraSondra:  its your wedding! do what YOU want

    I think its cute, i don’t think it is too much at all!

    Post # 10
    13 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have four older cousins who each have two children, ranging in age from 2 to 7. We had all eight of them in my wedding in June and everyone told me how cute and sweet they all looked. Three flower girls and five ring bearers. They all looked adorable. I’m just sorry they walked down the aisle ahead of me so I couldn’t really see them. That’s what I’m most looking forward to viewing on my wedding video! 

    Post # 11
    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    We had one flower girl and twin ringbearers.  It was totally fine, and they were super cute!  It’s definitely doable to have 4, so long as their parents accompany them to the rehearsal and they’re told what to do to help the kids.  Happy Wedding!  

    Post # 12
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Just be sure that they are all well behaved and will be up to the task.

    Post # 13
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think it’s too much.

    Post # 14
    6928 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Four isn’t too many. If you wanted to have like 7, then I’d think you were nuts, but 2 of each won’t look ridiculous and it means you get to have all the important kids in your life play a role.

    Post # 15
    708 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We are having 2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers….a brother and sister set frm my side, nd one from his side! We’re excited to include all of them:) 

    i think you’ll be fine! And personally, I love when there is more than one flower girl…so many cute picture ops:) 

    Post # 16
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would personally have them walk down in 2s as boy-girl couples because little kids dressed up and walking as couples make me squee. 

    At my wedding my FG and RB were my little cousins, brother and sister, and I had the older sister hold the younger brother’s hand coming down the aisle, it made him behave extremely well, I could see this just with two pairs for you!

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