Post # 1
We didn’t really care if we had a flower girl, ring bearers. It wasn’t really important to either one of us. But FI’s niece really should be included in our wedding since she is the only granddaughter on that side and my cousins daughter (who I consdier a niece) is the only grandchild on my side. These are the only girls in our families and both our moms think it’s important to have them be co-flower girls. I’m fine with that, it means a lot to everyone.
There are 4 young boys however. We don’t want to pick and choose which ones will be ring bearers, (they are all about the same age, 2-5) so we don’t want any. Is that weird? Will anyone notice anyway? Or should we just pick one or two? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings though! We’re not any closer to any of them than the others. Oh, and what do my flowergirls really have to do anyway? Look cute and throw flowers? Do I buy their dresses? Thanks!
Post # 3
We were the same as you. Had his niece as a flowergirl and decided not to have either of his nephews be a ringbearer because they were a little older (9 and 12) and also I didn’t feel as close to them (we babysat his nieces all the time, but never the nephews). I also didn’t want a ton of kids in the wedding, so I kept things simpler. No one noticed. At least no one said anything to me about it so I don’t think it is a big deal.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s weird, we are having a Ring Bearer and no Flower Girl. The only reason we are even having a Ring Bearer is he is the only nephew and my brother just assumed he would be it and bought him alittle suit and has had him practicing. He looks so cute in his little suit and has been practicing, how could I break his little heart. So, now we have a Ring Bearer.
Post # 5
We’re having a flower girl (maybe she’s more of a junior bridesmaid–she’s 10) but no ring bearer since we’re not close to any little boys. I don’t think it matters.
Post # 6
My 4 year old cousin is our Flower Girl and we have no Ring Bearer. I dont think it’s a big deal at all.
Post # 7
I’m with the others, we are having a Jnr Bridesmaid (11) and a flowergirl (2.5) because they are my two closest friends’ daughters and I’ve had a lot to do with them. Same issues with ring bearers so decided not to have any – think that is the best decision in your case (rather than playing favourites – that is guaranteed to get someones’ feelings hurt)