(Closed) Flower Girl’s parents are not going to let her come to my wedding after all…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

They may be trying to take advantage of this and spend some kid-free time. I wouldn’t convince them to bring her.

Maybeonce you get back,  you and your neice can have a auntie/niece day and you can play the video and share pics from your day. 

Post # 4
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You need to drop it.  I was your choice to have a Destination Wedding and traveling with kids IS very stressful.

It’s more important for your sister to be there.  In all honesty, other than being told she was in your wedding and the pictures, the 4-year old isn’t going to remember.  And, I’m sure your sister is seeing this as a chance to enjoy a kid-free experience and it will also allow her to be more ‘present’ for you vs. running after a 4-year old.

Maybe you could do a special dress-up all fancy, aunty/niece ‘flower girl’ day together before or after the wedding?  That would be such a fun thing for you both, I’d think! 

Post # 5
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t think that you should convince them to let her come. Traveling with a 4 year old can definitely be stressful. When she goes to bed at night, one of them is going to have to make sure they miss out on part of the wedding to take her back to the hotel room. That’s no fun for either of the parents. So I don’t blame them for wanting to take a little vacation sans kids. I think you should let it drop.

Post # 6
30 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree that she is probably wanting to take this opportunity to have a kid free trip, so the best thing would be to just let it go and let them do what they want (IMO). 

Post # 7
196 posts
Blushing bee

I can understand why you are upset.  It’s always hard when someone you really wanted to be there can’t make it.  In my travel experience, the level of stress depends highly on the child.  It’s always at least a bit stressful to travel with a kid, but with some kids it’s worse than others.  I think you are going to have to trust your sister’s judgement on this.  We are in a similar situation with my fiance’s nephews, although his sister has not yet made her final decision.  In our case, it isn’t even an international flight (It would be about 3.5 hours.), and I know he’s going to be very disappointed if they don’t come, but we’ll accept it. 

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