(Closed) Florist etiquette…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Is your FMIL paying? If your paying take whomever you’d like. If they are paying I would def bring them.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Who is paying for the flowers?

For vendors that my husband and I paid for, we went to them together, by ourselves.  For vendors that my parents paid for, we went with them.

For the rehearsal dinner and day after brunch (which my ILs) paid for most of the planning was done over the phone but we choose the menus with my in laws.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I totally get not wanting to bring a FMIL, but is she paying?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree with the pp! If your FMIL is paying then its her prerogative to tag along! If she’s just being controlling then your FI needs to talk to her.

I’m all for keeping peace w/ in laws though… if she’s going to be that upset if she can’t come then is it worth the fight??

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow that’s great you have parents almost fighting to pay for your wedding. Anyway, I think that inviting her to go with you will be good cause maybe you could make up. It sounds like the two of you had a pretty good relationship to begin with.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I only brought my mom, but that was to save my husband fomr the agony of looking at flowers lol.  He wasnt interested.  You sounds like you are in a situation like mine (I think I remember reading some of your old posts about her actually.)  Dont invite her out of obligation UNLESS SHE IS PAYING.  Dont let her guilt you, this is your wedding

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am taking my mom to meet with a florist, and I’m taking my MOH to meet with another florist, because my mom can’t make it to both.  FI and I are paying for most of our wedding, but like KellyV said, my FI would not be interested in looking at flowers!!  We’re going to the catering tasting together, cake shopping, etc. (Pretty much anything involving food, he’s in hehe). 

Personally, I would invite her to come if she just really wants to see the flower choices and be involved.  It might prevent some stress/tension in the future.  However, if she’s overbearing and controlling and is trying to sway your decisions, I would say leave her at home!

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