(Closed) Flying hypotheticals: Giving up a beloved pet for your FI

posted 6 years ago in Pets
  • poll: Would you get rid of a beloved pet for a BF/FI?
    I wouldn't enter into a relationship with someone who hated/is allergic to my beloved pet : (57 votes)
    43 %
    They better get shots or learn to deal, my pet is staying forever : (55 votes)
    41 %
    Bye bye pet! Hello FI! : (16 votes)
    12 %
    Other - explain! : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would have a really hard time giving up the dog.  I think it would depend on if the allergy could be contained by medicine.  Obviously the worse the allergy the more likely I would be to give up the dog, but even then I would have a hard time!

    Post # 4
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wouldn’t enter in a relationship with that person. Sorry.

    I love my dog, I wouldn’t want to give him up to a shelter. I also wouldn’t want to force someone to have to “deal” with it. Allergies are not fun. Thankfully, my husband loves my dog too and is not allergic.

    Post # 5
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @Arjuna:  I met my husband on eharmony, and it has a section of “5 things you cannot live without” at the top of my list was “a pet,” so anyone that responded to my profile knew ahead of time that they were getting a “pet person.” 

    In the example above with the 9 year old dog: The dog was there first, and the owner made a commitment to the fuzzball. I hate how people are so fast to say good riddance to their pets because someone is sneezy. I’d wait to move in with the other person if they were unwilling to get a shot, especially if they MET me KNOWING full well I had a pet in the first place. Nope, nuh uh. Wait until the pet passes on before moving in with me. When I adopt an animal, it’s for life, and how it should be. That’s the responsibility you accept as a pet owner, period.

    Post # 6
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    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I agree with you, I wouldn’t enter a relationship with someone who hated or was very allergic to cats, my pet of choice.

    Post # 8
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    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I wouldn;t have started the relationship if I knew FI was allergic to/hated dogs. My dogs have always been very important to me. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee

    I have two cats that I have gone through a lot to keep in my life. My FI is allergic, but damn if he doesn’t love my cats. We don’t even live together yet, but he still helps clips their claws and groom them.

    If he didn’t like my cats he would have never have made it this far in our relationship. I had the cats first.

     

    Post # 10
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @Aure:  I love the meows too. 🙂  I’ve had my Fido (cat) for 15 years now, and I’m 30. If DH couldn’t deal with her, he’d have problems. She’s been a staple in my life for half of it. I’m in deep, and I’m going to see her through!

    Post # 11
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    5663 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think people give pets away far too easily. They are a commitment for the duration of their life in my opinion. Personally I wouldn’t have been attracted to someone that had no interest in pets so we probably wouldn’t have gotten very serious. 

    He can’t get offended its a fake situation! Lol!

    Post # 12
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I answered that I wouldn’t enter into a relationship, but more importantly, every time I see your title, I like you a little more. 

    Flying Hypotheticals, love it!

    Post # 14
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Arjuna:  I’m also guilty of flinging hypotheticals all willy nilly and it’s gotten us into a few unnecessary arguments. I try to keep it to a minimum, or at least wait until something remotely relevant to the conversation happens to someone we know to bring it up.

    I see it as a conversation-starter, and he sees it as putting energy towards something we may never have to deal with.  My mother calls it “living in the wreckage of the future.”  I call it “time to drive my husband batty during long car rides.” 🙂

    Post # 15
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @bells219:  I’ve done this before, and gotten myself quite offended when I asked my husband if he would love me if I had an accident and had scars on my body and / or face. HE HAD TO THINK ABOUT IT!!! (We were only dating at the time) 

    I asked him how he would feel if his father dumped his mother after 35 years of marriage because she had a scar on her face. He did not like this situation at all. 

    (THREAD-JACK!!! OOPS!!!!!!!!!!!!)

    Post # 16
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    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I love my maltese Chloe and would never give her up for any one…. I was clear about that from the very beginning of my relationship…. Luckily Chloe stole my FI’s heart as well….

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