- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
My FMI has just informed me that a lady from our Church (FI and I are both members of the same Catholic church. FMI is a teacher at the Catholic school) wants to have a Church shower for us. Our wedding is in June. I have chosen a date that works for the hostess. Now for the problem…..She wants me to invite 100 people–with the mind set that half will come–which is accurate.
My FMI said that she would start going through the Church directory and making a list of people to invite to the shower. In my opinion it is absolutely necessary to invite everyone to the wedding who was invited to a party/shower (thats how we have been working all year). I freaked out when she said she would find 100 people to invite. I explained that we already have 278 invitations going out (which is about 500 people. The wedding guest list is already a little out of control in my opinion. I do not want to add 100 people to it…neither do my parents who are paying for all of these additional people. FMI suggested that we invite all of the people to the shower and then just announce to them at the shower that they are all invited to the wedding and not send them an actual wedding invitation. I think this is absolutely ridiculous. I have given her permission to choose 50 ladies from Church to invite to the shower so we would only be adding 50 more wedding invitations (aprox. 100 people) to the wedding guest list if that is the direction we end up going. She is fine with this.
My Grandmother suggested that we place an announcement in the Church bulletin about the shower and the wedding that way no one is excluded and we don’t have to actually send out 100 more invitations. She says that this works great at her Church and most people don’t usually end up attending the wedding.
Is this bad etiquette? I personally think it is, however, I also want to save as much money as possible.
PS Rant: FMI has known about our wedding for a year in a half and has been asked to provide me with her guest list….i think March is kind of late to be adding so many people to the list. She also got upset when Fiance told her that she would need to provide me with a list of names and addresses of the addition invites–even though I have found all of the 278 addresses we currently have including FI’s family)!!!!!