- 2 weeks ago
I’m not sure where to put this question or even how to ask it but here goes. …
FH is not very close with his mother and she doesn’t particularly care for me either (it’s mutual). She is invited to the destination wedding. Even before she knew it was destination wedding, she said she wasn’t going to contribute anything. Not that she wasn’t able to, she just wasn’t going to.
As the “mother” of the groom, is she part of the bridal party? She’ll be invited to the shower, but what about favors. I want to get my bridal party matching shirts (MOH, MOB, etc), flip flips, and things like that for their welcome bags at the resort…Do I have to get her one? She’d get a welcome bag I just wasn’t sure if I had to put matching “bridal” stuff in hers. FH is planning on getting his best man (no groomsmen) personalized stuff to put in his bag so could he get her something that “matches” the groom side? And I think he’s getting my dad something because my dad and FH are super close.
And as for getting ready wedding day, where does she get ready? I REALLY don’t want her in the bridal room. It’d be me, my mom, MOH, and “Man” of honor in my room getting hair/makeup done and getting dressed. I’m an only child so it’s not like my mom has a lot of chances for this.
I guess I just don’t know where she fits in to all of this past being invited to the bridal shower. At first she wasn’t if she’d be able to afford to the destination wedding so she wouldn’t be able to go – and FH wasn’t that concerned about her not being there. And this would be the only family on his side. It’s a really small wedding – 10 total including guests.
Back to the welcome bag and custom stuff….should she match the bridal party? I was thinking of just giving her the “basic” welcome bag that we’re giving to the other 2 guests plus whatever FH wanted to get her. I’m just not sure whose responsibility it is to include her.
Any thoughts? And if I can clarify anything, let me know.
Thanks in advance for your help!