- 4 years ago
My FMIL is a very nice person. But sometimes she drives me bananas.
We currently do our laundry at their house. We are renting atm and the nearest laundromat as 15 km away. She INSITED we do our laundry at their house. We were very grateful. BUT…
When we bring our clothes, I take them straight to the basement to the laundry room. I am VERY touchy when it comes to our dirty laundry, and I don’t want anyone touching that, except my FI who helps out with it. The first few times FMIL accompanied me to the laundry room, and literally stood there watching as I separate our clothes, turned the jeans inside out, underwear, sexy nightgowns etc. She also took several garments to look at their label and make sure I’m washing them right. After a few times of that, I politely told her that it makes me very shy and uncomfortable when someone handles our dirty laundry, and that if she doesn
t mind I prefer to do it myself. It is so... personal! And I dont want my FMIL to know what I wear to bed `with her son!
She continues to do it though! The other week, I wasn
t able to come to their house to do laundry, so my FI had to do it himself. I pleaded that he please doesnt let his mom do our laundry. I separated everything for him in advance, whites, black, colors, towels, etc. I explained to him that it makes me very uncomfortable when she wants to handle and touch our dirty clothes.
He called me from her place, and said, “Hey, my mom said your blue cardigan has to be washed by hand. And she also said you shouldn’t wash socks with underwear”. ARGH! I was fuming but remained polite. I said, “Well, darling, I’ve always washed my blue cardigan like that and nothing happened and as for the socks and underwear, we don’t have nearly enough of each for a separate load, but if you want to separate it go ahead.”
Ok, I get the underwear and socks, its totally a personal decision. I personally don’t see a point, becasue it all gets washed and clean anyways. Of course if it’s some really delicate material, like silk or lace underwear, I run it through a delicate cycle with some nice blouse shirts, or wash it by hand.
But in ANY case! She knew that it made me very uncomfortable when somebody other than FI touches and handles our dirty laundry!
When I voiced this to FI, he got a little defensive. But I explained to him that I simply don
t want to have someone sort through our dirty laundry, and that his mom of all people shouldnt have to do that!