- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Today I went bridesmaids dress shopping with my bridesmaids (including FSIL) and it was a disaster. Basically, my FMIL claims that I didn’t invite her shopping (which I did) and that I purposely gave FSIL wrong directions to the bridal shop.
Here’s what happened: My FMIL and I had discussed bridesmaids dresses a million times and I told her I wanted her to come with us shopping. Last week, we set the shopping date and I told her the date and I told her I wanted her to come. She said she would. She also offered to pay for FSIL’s dress (I was going to pay for all the girl’s dresses, but I appreciate the help) and I said thank you and that’d be so nice.
Fast forward to this week and there was a last minute change in the schedule. I texted FSIL and told her all the details, thinking she would share them with FMIL (they live together and FMIL is hard to get on the phone). I even said “can’t wait to see your mom and you.” I also didn’t give her the address to the bridal shop because it’s in an outdoor mall (which is in the town she lives in, so she knows where it is.) I just said “it’s at x mall, near the hotel.” FSIL googles the address and goes to the shop’s old location a few miles away. I apologize for the mix up and we go shopping. FSIL acts angry the entire appointment and keeps saying that we are torturing her and that she hates the dresses, colors, etc. We finally decide on the dress.
Later I get a text from FMIL saying that she didn’t know that she was invited and that I should have given them better directions. I told her that since we talked about it all the time and she said she’d come next week, that I assumed she just come with her daughter and that I thought FSIL would give her all the details. She told me that she didn’t remember ever talking about it and that she wanted an official confirmation because she’s “oldfashioned.”
My mom is convinced that FMIL didn’t come because she wants to cause problems or because she didn’t want to buy the dress like she had promised, which is probably accurate. I just feel really bad. I’m going to have my FI call up tonight and talk to her and then I was going to apologize as well. Any advice on what to do in this situation?
And thanks to anyone who read all this!