(Closed) FMIL and FSIL want their dresses to be a surprise to FI :/

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree that it’s a little silly, but don’t let it get to you! My mom keeps talking about how it’s a fact that she’s the second most important female at the wedding…like really? who thinks like that? Anyway, don’t let it get to you….FI will have eyes for NO ONE except you. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would be a little irritated by that too, geez you would think they were the bride, but hey in reality he is gonna not even notice what they are wearing. Do neither of them have partners?

Also you are a better person than me, I would have just shown him a pic of the BM dress.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@kate02121:  lol, second most important female at the wedding.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

I would definitely feel annoyed. It’s like they are trying to make it more about them, and it’s not even their wedding! the only person who should make a surprise entrance there is you. I would probably have asked my husband to talk to them and tell them that he doesn’t want you to feel less important on your special day.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2004

@kate02121:  haha, when your mom says that, you should just quote ricky bobby and say “hey, if you’re not first, you’re last”

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It seems to me like your FMIL and FSIL are attempting (albeit, rather poorly) to ‘take the spotlight’ away from you. Let’s face it though – what kind of guy cares even cares what his mom and sister are wearing, even on his wedding day. Their outfits might be a ‘surprise’ to him simply in the sense that he’s never seen them before – but it probably won’t go anywhere beyond that. The whole thing just seems really stupid to me, 

Also, you are perfectly allowed to show youf FI the bridesmaids dress that YOU chose for YOUR wedding. It’s not even like your FSIL is going to be the only one wearing it. There’s not a whole lot that you can do about the mom though I guess.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That is so stupid!  Just let it go…they’re just trying to find a way to make it about them.  Your FI will not care in the slightest what they are wearing…he’ll only have eyes for you and that’s all you need to worry about!!!

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think they’re going to be pretty disappointed when he doesn’t care what they’re wearing.

Even if he is that extremely rare guy who might notice what people are wearing, he’s going to have too much on his mind that day to give a flip what his mother and sister have on.

Go along with this whole nonsense, and then be there to pat their shoulders in sympathy when he doesn’t notice, or notices but doesn’t think it’s important.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I just asked FI- “do you care what the Matrons of honor are wearing?” No.
“Do you care what your Mom and sister wear?” No.
“Do you care what *I* wear?” (sheepishly replied)- not really.

Ha! So these two are so off base with their silliness! Ask him the day after the wedding what they were wearing. “Um, dresses?” 🙂

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Oh yes that’s definitely irritaring. But I wouldn’t worry too much, dresses are the kind of thing that guys don’t care about.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Okay this really bothers me too for some reason. If I could I would show him the damn dresses… take a picture or something.. But then again i’m mean like that. 

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