- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
okay… so before those of you who have read my previous posts about all the drama go “oh crap, not more”.. no.. there hasn’t been any more recent drama (not directly involving me anyway).
Before all this wedding stuff began I had a really good relationship with both my FMIL and FSIL. I’ve recently come to realize, that even now that the drama has…. subsided… I can’t stand either of them.
FSIL just irks me because she thinks she is so smart and good at everything yet is basically stupid (or maybe just ignorant?) or basic etiquette or any sort of common courtesy. She is also SUPER flakey and I just really don’t tolerate that. If we make plans and you break them once, okay, twice, okay… but like ALL THE TIME because you are “too busy” but I know you’ve gone out with other friends.. its hurtful and rude!
Not to mention, I didn’t want her as a bm to begin with but I got kind of roped into it. ugg.
FMIL has pissed me off with her whole holier than thou attitude and refusing to do anything by etiquette or what FI and I want. I hate her. I thought I could get over all the little things and let it go, but honestly I want to smack her. I want to scream at her. and I want to cry that I have such angry feelings. I’m not an angry person. I am loving and caring of others. but she has made me feel UGLY FEELINGS. I know it isn’t right, but she has just frustrated me to no-end and I just dread the wedding day because I don’t know what kind of BS she will pull next.
Sorry, I’m not looking for advice really. Maybe sympathy, maybe there are others in similar situations who have had this feeling pass? FI and I are in anger management/couples counselling together to try and work through the wedding planning resentment as well as his temper (and the fact that he isn’t that great a communicator) but I feel like the healing isn’t happening fast enough. She hasn’t acknowledged what she’s done, and she hasn’t apologized.. or well I feel she hasn’t SINCERELY apologized to me for all the offensive crap she has said. She hasn’t acknowledged any wrong doings, and I’m just.. so upset about it. I also HATE THE FACT that she went and picked a super formal gown for the SEMIformal cocktail ambiance wedding. bridesmaid dresses are knee length, my mom didn’t want to have to wear a gown, and against mine and my moms wishes stupid FMIL went and bought a dress even though I pleaded to wait so we could talk about it and my mom could have a shot at getting one first or we could go together again.
she just really pisses me off and makes me sick to my stomach. UGG
sorry I just had to vent. FI thinks I’m okay for now because I try not to let it eat me up all the time, but I’m livid and hurt and disgusted by this woman and I just need to find a way to let it go before it ruins everything (and YES I know I’m being somewhat irrational, but its how I feel… sigh)