Post # 1
My FI and I recently found out that his mom and step dad are getting a divorce. Not sure how this is going to effect our wedding. It kind of puts a damper on things because I feel as if a wedding should be a time of love and celebrating new life together and not a time to be thinking about a divorce in the family…..
She also gave me her wedding dress that she got married to my FI’s step dad in because my mom didnt have a wedding ceremony and my FMIL has only boys. She said she always wanted a girl to give her wedding dress to but she never had a girl so she gave the dress to me. Im not sure how I feel knowing that Im getting married in a wedding dress from a broken marraige…..
Any words of wisdom please
Post # 3
@cmoest: Well do you like the dress? If so, I say wear it. If a relationship is so fragile that wearing a particular dress is going to destroy it, then it probably wasn’t going to work anyways. Many brides have gotten used dresses with bad histories (called off wedding, weight gain, etc), but have gone on to have happy marriages. It doesn’t make the timing of the divorce less stressful, but I don’t think you should worry about the dress.
Post # 4
@cmoest: …that’s life sometimes!
A divorce certainly won’t put a damper on your wedding anymore than having divorced people in attendance would…its not like a rational person looking down the barrel of ending a marriage would stop proceedings because someone was getting married…don’t worry about it. Plus, if she’s ridden in this rodeo before, she knows the deal.
An heirloom dress from a divorced marriage isn’t cursed or anything, unless you hate it or it smells or something…we all know that the ONLY actual cursed items in this world are the evil tiki figures from the Brady Bunch Hawaii trip…Gregg didn’t know what hit him!
Either way, let the dust settle on the announcement of this divorce and you’ll see, its not such a big deal at all.
Post # 5
Sorry to hear what you/they are going through. But maybe a wedding is exactly what you need to get over the tough times. If you don’t feel comfortable wearing the dress, just say that you have found this other dress that you’ve fallen in love with, and would really, really like to wear it for your wedding… or something of that sort.
Post # 6
That’s a bummer! But I don’t think it will affect your wedding joy/planning.
Do you LIKE her dress? If you do, wear it! If you don’t, you now have a GREAT reason not to wear it!
Post # 7
I like the dress…
When my FI and I first started dating, she showed it to me. Then she made the comment on how she didnt know what she was going to do with it bc its just sitting in her closet collecting dust. Then I remember one day, her husband and her got into a really bad fight and they split up, they were in the process of moving, he left and she had to move everything by herself so she called me and my FI to come help her. At that time she lived in the country so she could freely burn things without getting an okay from the fire dept. as she was moving she was also doing some, I guess you would say “spring cleaning” and throwing things away (burning), boxes, old clothes, broken things and next thing you know shes walking outside with her wedding dress. My FI asked her what she was doing and she said that she was throwing her dress away bc she didnt want it anymore. My FI ended up talking her into keeping the dress bc she might regret it if she burnt it. Weeks later, her and her husband got back together. About a year after that she gave me the dress and told me that she didnt have any daughters to give it to and that its just taking up space in her closet. I kindly accepted.