(Closed) FMIL and shower advice needed….(Sorry it’s long)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m a little confused.

You had 1 bridal shower with your side of the family, his side wants to throw you one AND there’s a baby shower (for you?) in the mix as well?

You can’t be completely blind to the plans for the shower(s). Your Future Mother-In-Law is just trying to make sure you’re available on a given date and why wouldn’t you want your mom included? Surprises are nice but being practical is nicer.

Why don’t you just have 1 baby shower with both sides of the family? No joint baby/bridal.

Post # 5
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It kind of sounds like your Future Mother-In-Law isn’t aware that there is already a seperate baby shower in the works, that will include all of your people. I’d let her know that your Maid/Matron of Honor is already planning that, give her the MOH’s contact info so she can check and make sure that that date works/doesn’t work for her side, and then plan accordingly. It kind of sounds like she doesn’t want to inconvenience her side with 2 showers so close together, and that’s fine, if that’s what she wants, but you kind of need to know, because it would be a little odd to invite all those people who just attended a joint bridal/baby shower for you to ANOTHER baby shower, you know?

And, I hear you on being bummed out about the surprise – my Mother and Sister desperately wanted to keep my bridal shower a surprise, and my Future Mother-In-Law totally ruined it.

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