- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I love her to death, but sometimes she needs a sucker punch to the face for the way she handles things.
Me, mom, my aunt, Future Mother-In-Law, FGMIL, and FI’s cousin have all been planning this trip to look at MOB/MOG dresses. Future Mother-In-Law and FGMIL went dress shopping, but they couldn’t find anything they liked, so they wanted to travel to a different city 3 1/2 hours away and Future Mother-In-Law wanted us to come along. We discussed this over a two months ago. She said she requested the time off (she works at Hobby Lobby). We’re set to go May 29. For this whole month Future Mother-In-Law has been saying, “Oh I am so excited for the 29!” “I am having my mom and niece spend the night.” “It’s going to be a fun day!” She even asked me on Sunday what time we’d be leaving and that we were taking her van.
Last night she leaves me a voicemail saying that she has to work that day. I texted her back and said, “Did you not get your time off never get approved?” She said, “All I could do is put in a request. Going to talk to him tomorrow, but not holding my breath, as he has everyone working that day.” Now, her working wouldn’t be such a big deal if she HADN’T MADE IT SEEM LIKE WE WERE FOR SURE GOING!!!
So then she tries to kind of guilt me, “Well, I took 2 days off for the bridal shower, that’s why. Would June 7th work?” (Just a side note, she did NOT have to take 2 days off from work for the shower. I told her this. The shower is in town. No travel required. And it isn’t because of that. It’s because she has already taken 9 days off in May) I said, “No, I have a summer job, and I’m already taking two days off for the wedding and a week for the honeymoon. I thought the way you have been planning this trip it was a for sure thing.” She says, “He’s always honored my time off before so I didn’t think it was a big deal.” Well, Future Mother-In-Law it kinda was. I told my summer job I’d start a day later, my mom and aunt both took time off from work too.
Anyone who has worked retail (including me for 3 1/2 years) knows that the day after Memorial Day is a huge shopping day because everyone from out of town is visiting. So I was a little peeved that she made a big deal out of going and now may not be able to. I was looking forward to going with, and I’d be let down instead of annoyed if she hadn’t handled it so stupid. You don’t get people excited to go and then say the time off never got approved. You make plans after it is for sure. Fiance agreed with me and explained this is the way his mother’s always been. She has never really had a great work ethic–she takes a billion unnecessary days off, so when she actually NEEDS one, they have to pull her aside and say, “Ya know, Future Mother-In-Law, you already took off a week at the beginning of May, a day last week, and now you want one next week. That’s a lot of days.”
Just frustering and had to vent. Hopefully manager approves it and she can go. If not, I won’t be too upset. We can still go, just me, mom, and my aunt. I’m just not going to reschedule a day to accomodate her. She will just have to dress shop on her own.