(Closed) FMIL being selfish and so unfair to FFIL (loooong)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should we invite FFIL's cousins, against FMIL's wishes?
    YES, she is being selfish and childish : (23 votes)
    22 %
    YES, you can invite whoever you want, it is your wedding : (67 votes)
    64 %
    NO, stay out of it, it's not your battle : (10 votes)
    10 %
    NO, if you do your FMIL will go batshit crazy : (0 votes)
    Bump your guest list back up to 250 : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Other (explain below) : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think you should invite who YOU want, and tell your FMIL that she’s nothing more than a guest. Holy cow, this woman is a disaster. Your parents shouldn’t have to cut their family just to appease this wrecking ball of a woman.

    Post # 7
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    9609 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    definitely invite your FFIL’s cousins, she chose to cut all her cousins, so that’s her choice, your FFIL shouldn’t need to lose out on having family there because of his wife’s disgusting behaviour

    Post # 8
    Member
    2608 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I second PP.  Just invite who you want.  Period.

    Post # 9
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    3773 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    @MrsPeachMartini:  Exaclty.

    Quit giving this woman options. At this point you gave her the 30, don’t give her your parents 10 nor any more. If she can’t figure it out so be it. I would even say at this point since she said she doesn’t want the extra 30, take them back and don’t say another thing about the guest list. Every time you talk to her about the guest list, it gives her the impression she has a say, she doesnt so stop talking to her about it.

    Post # 10
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    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @mayflowerbride13:  And reward your FI for standing up for you, because even though it’s the right thing for him to do, I can’t imagine how hard it must be for him… make him a big pot roast or buy him a new video game or something lol 😉

    Post # 11
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    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    stop negotiating with her! you gave her the options so she has to deal with them. and I would also stay out of that fight. if he wants to be upset with anyone it should be her for ruining this experience for EVERYONE.

    Post # 14
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    9609 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    @mayflowerbride13:  i also think it’s so awesome that your FI is standing up to his mom about this, i know how much difficulty you have had with that, he has definitely come round, you have got a great guy there 🙂

    Post # 15
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    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @mayflowerbride13:  ah, that sucks! I would still stay out of it though. You can’t cave everytime they say jump and your FH is just starting to see that. If you give in to their every demand you’ll only be enabling their behavior. I’m sorry this is such a battle for you.

    Post # 16
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    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Just add his cousins to your list and give each set of parents ten. (This seems fair to me if he has no family already included in your list.)

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