FMIL bought her dress…FROM GOODWILL!!!!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If it fits and looks nice, i don’t see an issue. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My mother in law got the suit she wore for my wedding at a thrift shop and she looked beautiful. Her financial situation isn’t ideal. She came to me with the dress super excited at finding it on such a good deal. And you know what? I told her it was beautiful and on my wedding day it didn’t matter at all. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I may be a little biased because pretty much all of my clothes (even dresses I wear to weddings) come from op shops, but what exactly is the problem? Is it just that she didn’t spend “enough” on the dress, or the fact that she bought a dress before your mother did (I know some people get upset about that, too).

Is your FMIL a particularly dressy sort of person? Because if she’s not the sort to wear dresses a lot, she may not have wanted (or had the budget) to spend a lot on a dress she will only wear once or twice. Or she may have intended to buy a dress for an “acceptable” price (whatever that may be), but found one that she loved for only $8 – what’s wrong with that?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Honestly, you’re being a snob. You said yourself that the dress is suitable, so why does it matter to you how much $ she spent? Her money is none of your business anyway.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m not quite sure why you’re so hung up on the price of the dress. She got a dress that fit into your requirements. Please, please try to refrain from telling another grown woman what kind of undergarments she should wear. It’s insulting. She has been dressing herself for many years now. Unless she explicitly asks for your opinion, please keep your mouth shut. 

 

As for your own mother, I have no idea what to say. 

ETA I have fibro. I don’t find Spanx to be uncomfortable because of that. I find them uncomfortable because they’re tight fitting support garments. But seriously, don’t you have other more important wedding details to fret over than your MIL’s undergarments and the price of her dress?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hey, as far as I’m concerned, a dress is a dress. It probably cost a pretty penny at some point. Kudos to her for not shelling out $200 for a dress that probably cost $15 to make in a sweatshop somewhere. My ex sis-in-law actually bought her wedding dress from a thrift store and it was lovely.

As long as it isn’t clashing with what you want and it doesn’t have unidentified stains all over it I wouldn’t get too upset. You have a million other things to worry about. Now she has extra money to put towards a gift to you guys ;p I kid.

Just please don’t let her buy her underwear from there.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

if she loves it and it looks nice, who cares how much it cost.  i wouldn’t care.

my mother wore a dress that she already had in her closet.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We bought my nieces wedding gown from Salvation Army and it was gorgeous. It cost more to get it cleaned before the wedding! My niece looked lovely in it!

Many of my nicer dresses come from Salvation Army, although I do occasionally get clothes from Goodwill as well. My Aunt of the Bride dress came from Salvation Army.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t understand why any of this has to be an issue. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I’d be fucking thrilled if I could get a dress I liked from a thrift store for $8. You’re being a snot, let it go.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@trueblue14:  I wanted to the the tooth fairy for Halloween one year when i was younger and figured an old wedding dress would be good for that, so I looked at the Salvation Army. I couldn’t believe how much they were charging… the dresses all looked like they were from the 80s/early 90s and they each cost like $300!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think that’s fine my FMIL did the exact same thing but she also got her shoes there too for $4… didn’t bother me ( plus I know she’s broke and she has to spend money to get down here by bus ). It’s not my descision how much they spend or what they wear. The only attire I care about is mine, my FI’s and the wedding party. I’ve been trying to find a dress for my mom for super cheap ( cause she’s cheap ) but she’s planning on spending 100- 200 $ which amazes me. I just think it’s not nice that your mom is mad at you for this though.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

My MIL wore all white to my wedding!!!!!!!!

As long as it looks nice it doesn’t matter were she got it from!

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