Post # 1
I donate monthly to a well known charity, and FH’s mom basically told me I should stop in order to save money for a wedding if I’m really serious about marriage. I feel pissed that she’s lecturing me about money, but also sad that she doesn’t know me well enough to see how I value this. No point to this post really, just need to get it out somewhere.
Post # 3
@Laurenplusalex: Sayyyy whaaaat?
Two things, honey.
1. Mother in laws will find something to critcize, whether it’s direct, or passive aggressive. It sucks.
2. It’s not her business how you spend your money. She spends her money on stuff she likes and is passionate about too, right? You don’t criticize her, I’m sure. Unless she is financially supporting you, don’t worry about it!
I’m sorry. I totally know how you feel.
Post # 4
P.S. You sound like a lovely woman and I commend you for your donations!
Post # 5
@MrsMaskatoBe: aw, thank you. No, she is not supporting me. And, since we don’t live together, neither is her son for that matter. She’s generally nice, but maybe a bit critical in general. Like, someone posted a cute video of their baby on Facebook, and her response was, “he’s too close to the tv, it’ll hurt his eyes”.
Post # 6
THere are some people who will complain about anything. Yeah, my husband’s grandmother asked me why my mother hadn’t gotten me a job yet. Yeah, my mom is the secretary, not the boss…she doesn’t exactly influence hiring decisions.