Post # 1
So this sounds stupid, even when I think about it, but I need to vent about it. (I’ve posted about this before in different thread and it was kind of funny until this last weekend).
My Future Mother-In-Law went dress shopping with my mom, sister, and me on our first trip. It was super busy, I hated it, when I found a dress that fit I decided to get it, put down a payment, and ordered it. My mom, being very thoughtful, decided we should go back when it was less busy and shop just the two of us. At first I was hesitant but then I went to my FMILs house that evening, where FH was staying to have her tell me that she told him about the dress “not all of it but a little”. I was mad…pissed. I’m very traditional when it comes to things like this and don’t want him to know anything about it. I have been waiting to marry this man for over 9 years now and want him to be surpised when I walk down the aisle. This made the decision to go back to the salon easy.
So we went back, had a much more enjoyable time, and we did end of finding a different dress which I love so much more than the first. And my mother and I didn’t tell Future Mother-In-Law about the new dress until recently (dress was ordered in November). My mom and Future Mother-In-Law got together and she showed her a picture of the new dress on the website and tells her not to say a thing to FH.
Skip to this past weekend when we went to the tux shop – me, fiance, Future Mother-In-Law, and my mom. FMIL is looking up at the wall where there’s a picture of a bride and groom and says “That looks a lot like your dress…it’s the same on top isn’t it? Just needs the belt like yours!” And of course fiance is standing right there. And yes it looked exactly like my dress. I couldn’t believe it! She did it again!
I guess I could try to put this out of my mind but I honestly can’t. She knows how I feel about her spilling the damn beans and she did it not once, but twice! I can’t figure out what her deal is. To me it’s just disrespectful to go against what I asked, which I don’t think was too much – don’t say anything about the dress.
Was I out of line for asking her not to say anything? Anyone else had similar things happen?
Post # 3
Wow, you are so not out of line for asking her not to say anything. It’s your dress, you don’t want your Fiance to see it until your wedding day, and it is completely unbelievable that she has told him about your dress twice. I’m so sorry this has happened, but hopefully your Fiance didn’t get a good look at the picture or won’t remember it too well. In any event, I’m sure he’ll be surprised on your big day; he’s never seen you in the actual dress, and I’m sure you’ll take his breath away!
Post # 4
Wow, that’s annoying! No, you are not out of line. But I would take this as a lesson as to not tell her anything anymore that should be a surprise. The first incident should have been the last, and now she has proven to be unreliable with keeping things mum.
Post # 5
Well you now know one thing with certainty. Your Future Mother-In-Law can’t keep a secret. Don’t ever again tell her anything you want kept confidential. She can’t keep her yap shut!
Post # 6
Don’t show her anything anymore! Either she just gets too excitied and forgets that your Fiance is there, or she’s doing it on purpose. Either way, don’t show her anything else that you want as a suprise.
Post # 7
Uhhhh….I guess she just wants to share in your happiness?
The good thing about men is they have a poor ability to remember/invision and put together fashion. Even the ones who are good at fashion are only good if its RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM.
I’ve shown my Fiance a picture of my dress on the model, I’ve talked about it infront of friends. I know if I quizzed him now the only thing he could tell you about it is that its lace & has straps…which it does. BUT he in no way has a vision of me in that dress in his head.
I’m sure your Fiance will be incredibly surprised and happy to see you in your dress on your wedding day. Even if Future Mother-In-Law decides to take him to the shop and visit your dress (which they won’t let her do thank god) he will still be in awe when its on you.
In the mean time no more dress talk with Future Mother-In-Law 😉 get her involved in the suits or something lol
Post # 8
She is so lame. I would not tell her ANYTHING.AT.ALL!!! Except, maybe that you changed your mind on that dress 😉 and nothing more about your wedding or your life!!
Post # 9
That indeed is quite annoying. However, you can just think of what happened as a lesson. After all, it might just be force of habit for her. Like Tickles pointed out, you can simply keep things which you want to be a surprise a secret from her. That way, nobody will feel hurt.