Post # 1
My Fiance made the mistake of telling her the names we like for our child. I told him not to tell her because i knew she would say something and make me feel bad but he forgot and told her last night.
I have always loved these names
Ethan Thomas Bray
Amber Bethany Bray
(bray isnt my Fiances surname but its similar so you get the ida of how they sound together!)
Well she says shes doesnt like the name Ethan and doesnt like thomas as a middle name (Thomas is my surname) and she much prefers the name Lucy (lucy was my rabbits name)
I wish she would keep her opinions to herself- its our child not hers and i will call it what i like but im sad to think she doesnt like either of them.
Post # 3
I love the name Ethan, but I am biased because that’s my FI’s name 😉 i would still name your child a name you love, and I am sure once she sees her grandchild she will love whatever name you chose 🙂
Post # 4
I think “Amber Bethany” is kind of awkward. “Amber Beth” might work, but something about the longer middle name doesn’t sound as cohesive to me. I love Ethan though, it’s such a classic name.
Post # 5
I have a friend who was thinking of naming her child William after DH’s father. Her Mother-In-Law said “Pleas don’t do that-I don’t think I could love a child named William” because they were divorced. My friend was devastated. They didn’t name the child William, but she never forgave Mother-In-Law for saying such a cruel thing right before she was about to give birth. People are really insensitive sometimes! By the way, I love the names you picked! 🙂
Post # 6
@ChocolateLime: I love the names you picked, not the girl’s and boy’s name. Ethan for me is really sweet and clings good, as well as Amber Bethany.
It’s like you said, it’s your child and you and your FI/DH are the ones in charge, but sometimes people are just not very thoughtful and easily hurt your feelings. Just brush it off and be happy over the names you have, they sound (and look) really good!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Rule #1 with baby names: Don’t tell anyone the name until the baby is born unless you are prepared for everyone’s opinion and critique of the name.
Post # 8
I dont like Beth personally its too short with the short surname sound harsh to me. I originally wanted Bethany Amber but FI’s cousins daughter is called Bethany so we switched it around. Amber is my mums favourite gem.
I also like the name Ebony
Post # 9
I like the names though it probably doesn’t make you feel much better about it. Don’t listen to her, she’ll get over whatever name you give your kids.
My mon’s mom hated my name (Karissa) when she learned what it was but she got over it pretty quick. My nickname is Kari and my uncles first response was “like Carrie from the movie Carrie?” People can say hurtful things but it is your child and you get to name them and if they don’t like the names you picked too bad cause they already named the kids they had.
Post # 10
Well she’ll have a longtime to learn to like those names. Do what you want, I like that you’re using your maiden name for your son’s middle name.
Post # 11
I already told Darling Husband that when we TTC we are not telling my mom any of our baby names until the kid is born! People are so darn critical.
Post # 12
I like the names you picked a lot! That said, your experience here is a big reason why my husband and I are keeping the name we chose for our baby girl a secret until after she’s born. I’ve heard so many stories similar to yours where a friend or family member will just criticize a name until it is ruined for the parents. We wanted to avoid that at all costs!
Post # 13
I like the names you picked!
We decided not to reveal our names, we don’t know the gender yet, but my Mom is convinced we’re having a girl, so she keeps pestering me.
I keep telling her we chose “Aretha Roses.” (Which, we did NOT.) She thinks we’re totally serious, so she’s been criticizing it 6 ways to Sunday, and it doesn’t bother me. And if the baby IS a girl, we’ll be using Lorelai Claire, and I won’t tell her until it’s on her birth certificate, and if she doesn’t like it, oh well.
I’m sorry your fiance forgot, and told his mother, and I’m even sorrier that your Future Mother-In-Law is making you feel bad. But remember: YOU have to love the name, and your Fiance has to love the name, and the list ends there.
Post # 14
@ChocolateLime: definitely go with the names you love! Everyone and their brother will tell you why you cant name your child Ethan. they went to highschool with an Ethan. their mailman is an Ethan. their dog growing up was ethan. ignore them and go with your gut! By The Way I think the names are lovely 😉
Post # 15
My mums only requests were to not choose a name begininning with S because my cousins all have! Saskia, Skye and Sophia!
I am sticking to the ones we have chosen unless i look at my child and decide he name doesnt work. She always tries to influence her sons desicions and im getting fed up of it.
I mean her boys are called Mark and Paul….how boring lol!
Post # 16
@Quietserenity: lol I love the idea of dropping a fake name into the mix to throw people off the scent! Everyone will be delighted when they find out the actual name!
Personally I like the names you have choosen and don’t believe anyone else should have a say in the matter. They will get used to it so do what you feel is right 🙂