Post # 1
I’ve never really gotten along with my Future Mother-In-Law, I can never win with her and she and I have completely different personalities. Fiance, my mom and I have been in the wedding planning process for about 4 months now and Future Mother-In-Law hasn’t even asked once how it’s going, offered to help plan or anything. She came over today to see the kids today and Fiance brought up our wedding plans and she didn’t even smile, ask questions or anything. She wouldn’t even look at him while he was talking and quickly changed the subject. Fiance told her I already have my dress and shoes and my shoes were actually on the counter in the box and she didn’t even want to see them. I know all of this probably sounds petty, but I just wish I had a Future Mother-In-Law that actually cared. She’s shown no interest whatsoever. I know she got married at the courthouse on FFIL’s lunch break and has told us before she thinks we should just go to the courthouse as well, so maybe she doesn’t like weddings, I don’t know. It’s just hard, I want her to care.
Post # 3
I’m sorry. I know this is tough and it hurts. I would just try to focus on the wedding planning and try not to think about what she is or isn’t doing for it. Maybe she will come around. Maybe she won’t. Just don’t let it ruin your day.
Post # 4
That sucks, you would think she would make an effort for her son at least. I guess you just have to accept that you can’t change it right now, who knows maybe with time you will get closer!
Post # 5
Some people just aren’t “wedding people”. My Fiance is 43, been married before and is one of 4 siblings.
His eldest sister doesn’t believe in marriage but has two kids and has lived with their father for 22 years (sounds like marriage to me minus the ceremony). His brother and sister both had courthouse weddings, as did his parents. His first wedding was a courthouse affair too. We are breaking the cycle and having a destination wedding, and all but his brother have said they’re not coming, including his mom. It’s beyond me how some people can not get excited for such affairs or at least make an attempt to celebrate the meaning behind the ceremony.
I’m sorry that you seem to have a Future Mother-In-Law that is like this. Unfortunately, no amount of prodding will get her to go all gooey eyed over the planning process. If it really bothers you, and to a lesser extent your Fiance, perhaps he should sit down and ask her ‘what gives’. If it’s just that she doesn’t “like” you he needs to tell her to get over it.If however, it’s because she’s not a ‘wedding person’ then he needs to explain that he understands that and he doesn’t expect her to become wedding obsessed. However, by never showing even the slightest interest she is hurting the both of you because you want to be able to include her in the excitement of getting ready for your special day.