FMIL doesn't want to wear a dress?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

yes. i promise you it is not important. enjoy your engagement and wedding planning without worrying about these things 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would let it go… some women just arent comfortable in dresses. There are plenty of nice things she could pick that isnt a dress. My MIL didnt wear a dress and she looked great!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Let it go. There are lots of women who feel more comfortable in pants, and there’s definitely great, stylish, gorgeous outfits with pants!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think there are tons of formal non dress outfits out there for women. I wouldn’t say anything.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My stepmother wore a pant suit. She looked lovely. (other than the fact that it was white… Yes, it was a jab, as we were fighting. But oh well… that’s a whole different topic) I didn’t care that she didn’t wear a dress. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yes, let it go. Won’t mean anything the day of. Plus she’ll probably make herself feel awkward not wearing a dress. I bet people willl ask her too. NO BIG DEAL.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My grandmother wore a pant suit to my mother’s 35K formal evening wedding in the 80s!

I’m sure she’ll look fine!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@SamanthaLovesJames:  why would she feel awkward not in a dress? Why would anyone even comment on it? A woman does not have to put on a dress to be properly attired. Women can wear whatever they want. “not a dress” doesn’t automatically mean “not proper attire.”  

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t see the big deal. She may not feel comfortable in a dress (just because some people like dresses doesn’t mean everyone does.. She may have body issues?) There is no rule saying she has to wear a dress

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsGatito:  Yeah no big deal. My mother in law wore a skirt and blouse and my grandmother wore pants. You wont notice on the day – i swear, haha!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

There are plenty of gorgeous tux-type suits for women out there that can be very, very formal.  How’s your relationship with her? Can you suggest a joint shopping trip for the occasion? That might help ease your concerns a little without pushing her into something she’s uncomfortable in.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsGatito:  I don’t see an issue as long as she is appropriatly dressed for the occassion. 🙂 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I hate wearing dresses and in my adult life I have worn three. One was a wedding.

I sympathise with her and she is propbably fretting, which is probably why your FI told her not to worry about it. She can now enjoy the celebrations knowing she doesn’t *have* to wear one, she still might?

There are lots of lovaly trouser/top combos, as well as skirts – It’s likely she’ll pick something really nice 🙂 

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