- 9 years ago
Hello everyone. I am having horrible issues with my FMIL and her dress choices!! I told her awhile ago that she could wear what she wanted – I wasn’t going to force her to wear something- and set her photos of the BM dresses, guy’s tuxes, and my mom’s dress. Everything is pretty formal- lots of silk dupioni, my mom is wearing a long dress, etc. She said right off the bat that she "wasn’t going to be caught dead in a long dress"- to which I said, "fine, whatever", thinking that there are lots of formal tea length dresses. I’ve been to a few weddings with her and she’s always been dressed appropriately. She’s in great shape and is a personal trainer, so I’m ok with her wearing a short dress with no jacket or whatever.
She asked for my opinon a few months ago, and I sent her a few emails with appropriate dresses from Nordstrom’s, Ann Taylor, etc. In response, she sent me an email with a dress that, while cute, was more appropriate for a 30something woman, and for a bridal shower or tea- NOT a formal wedding. My FI talked to her about him wanting her to wear something more formal, and to match the styles of the rest of the bridal party and family. She said ok, I forgot about it… until yesterday.
She was shopping with a friend- whose own daughter got married a few years ago, and understands appropriate MOG dresses- and proceeded to send us to pictures of dresses that she tried on and liked. One was a BRIGHT PINK dress with a v-back that went down to the small of her back that looked like something an old trashy hooker or cougar would wear in Vegas, and the other was ANOTHER bridal shower/tea party-esque dress with bright fuschia and white flowers all over it. COMPLETELY innappropriate for 1) a MOG and 2) a woman her age, mid 50’s!
I have no idea what to do. She’ll stick out like a sore thumb in all the photos. FI called her on it again last night and she seemed to be baffled by his concerns. FI, my mom, sister and dad totally agree with me and thinks she’s being rediculous. We put together another email with about 30 different dresses from various sites as guidelines/ideas, but she hasn’t responded yet. I’m afraid she’s going to think I’m trying to be controlling or bridezilla!!!! Price is not an object here. My mom thinks she’s jealous and trying to steal the spotlight. I feel rediculous to be so concerned about it but they are our photos that we’re going to have forever.