FMIL DRESS SHOPPING.. RANT

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh no! This is a moment that reminds me why I am happy to be leaving far away from our families. How did you deal with this?

Post # 5
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@sharmon13:  Good on ya – I would have lost my cookies:)

Post # 6
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m trying to avoid the “what is your evil stepmother wearing” conversation with FI. She is the type to wear white flowing floor length dresses to weddings. I’m hoping she chooses something else.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s the one thing that a bride-to-be must learn…to bite their tongue…

I made the mistake of inviting my MIL wedding dress shopping.

I invited both moms and my sister to go with me, and I found the perfect dress at Winnie Couture. My MIL was very opinionated about another dress she liked. Even after having put the deposit down for the dress I loved, she kept going on and on about how the Other dress looked better on me, and how pretty it was, to the point that I was upset (but did not show it, just kept my mouth shut). Can’t imagine what she would’ve said if she had actually bought the dress for me, which she didn’t, my sister did as a gift. I got home crying to my FI and he was so pissed, but was not suprised that she acted that way. He said she’s so selfish. I am 100% sure about my decision on my dress, but needless to say, my MIL ruined the “finding the dress experience”. I have not invited her to any other wedding appointments. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I did not invite my MIL as she has made it very clear she thinks weddings & getting married are a complete waste of time & money.They have still not committed to attending our DW.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My MIL made the biggest deal of the fact that I “had to” tell her what dress to wear. I have never heard of a bride telling her FMIL what dress to wear, I have always knowm MOGs who picked their own dresses. She was really, really not very nice about it. I nicely explained to her that I do not pick out her dress, she does. I said it in a really nice way, that I want her to be comfortable in what she chooses, and that I was sure she would pick out something appropriate, but beyond that I didn’t want to dictate things like that bc the details were not important to me, marrying her son was all that mattered. She went to one store of her own choosing and ordered a dress. No idea why she couldn’t just buy off the rack but whatever. Then she called me and complained that all the styles there were too low cut. I told her she could buy somewhere else, she said no. Why complain to me? And she was pretty rude to me about the whole thing. I have no idea where she got her ideas or why she felt justified in getting mad at me and being rude to me. If that were the only weird situation with her would be one thing but every single situation regarding the wedding was me trying to be really nice and gracious and her having a problem. It was really a no win situation for me, I didn’t want to fight or anything but obviously she did.

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