- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Ok so we just had a visit from FI’s mom… you might remember some other posts I’ve written about things being tense between us, in that we really don’t have anything in common other than gardening and FI.
So she just left from our visit…and I’m just really annoyed and need a place to vent.
So yesterday she came, didn’t call to tell us when she would be arriving so we basically sat around all morning and early afternoon. For the first hour she was here, she complained that the should have been a 2 hr drive was closer to 3. but she waited to leave at 12, and it was goregous here, and traffic is to be expected when you’re going to the coast on a nice weekend. So she asked to see my ring, that FI did do a nice job, but diamonds aren’t her taste, and she prefers a plain band because she’s just hard on her jewlery.. ok whatever.. She also made a couple comments how she hopes FI doesn’t have to pay this expensive ring off for a very long time.. again whatever…
Here’s where things start heading south… FMIL has a very large family who live back east. We are planning a fall wedding, and some family memebers can’t make it. One of her sisters e-mailed FI and said well if we can’t attend the wedding, maybe we could come out and throw you a shower that summer. FI talked about it, and since I haven’t met a lot of them, and it’s been a while since he’s visited, we thought maybe we’d go out there during the summer, and IF they wanted to, could do a wedding party or something. FMIL was like I don’t think this is a good idea, and traditionally it’s the BRIDE and her family that does the shower. Luckily FI chimed in and was said the aunt was the one who offered, and it wasn’t us, and it wasn’t like we are demanding one.
Then we go to dinner…she asks a couple of wedding questions about colors and place etc. She asks if my dad is going to walk me down. I’m thinking “umm of course” (I’m very close to my family which she knows) I just said “Yes, he’d be very hurt if I didn’t, and I already have a male maid of honor, so I can’t be to non traditional (just to be kind of funny and lighten it up) she’s like well when I got married I was very feminist and I just couldn’t have my dad give me away, because I was already a grown woman.. (ok whatev…) Then we’re talking about how FI and I met and the different occurances that happened. So FI was friends with his ex when we met…and almost ruined us getting together (which is why she got brought up) and FMIL is like I really like FI’s ex…and she will always have a special place in my heart.. I’m like thinking REALLY? It’s been 5 years we’ve been together…I doubt she’s seen his ex since they were together…. did she really need to say that…
I just find myself being so self concisous around her… Not to mention she’s 60+ and has a better body than I do! To make it worse, I can’t even eat what I want with her around anymore, she’s always making comments about the food we have in the house is so unnutritious and how everything I make is so “rich” and how she’ll have to live on vegetables when she goes home. FI had bought me a doughnut for me this morning, and the dog was smelling it and I was like “oh dog you can’t eat that it would be chocolate death” because dogs can’t process chocolate, and she says “not to mention the sugar and cholesterol.” OMG I couldn’t eat it until she left… FML