Post # 1
So I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my future in-laws. They live about 30 minutes away and we frequently have dinner at their house. It is a very humble older home, and she keeps the house tidy, but I wouldn’t exactly say squeaky clean. She is very much into animals and nature. She has been having a problem with her cat’s mouth. She told me a few weeks ago that he was catching 2-3 cockroaches every night. Um EWWWW!! I kind of just ignored this at the time, because I didn’t know how to respond. Then about a week ago I saw one in the bathroom at their house. Then last night after dinner there were two huge ones running around the kitchen counters. Even over the food that I had brought over!! I screamed and she was like, “Oh ya, they just come in this time of year”. And I was all excited and asked her if she needed an exterminator. And she was totally not worried about it and tried to tell me to just think of them as beetles.
AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! Disgusting!!!!! I am so grossed out!!!!!! I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I feel like she needs to get this problem taken care of. Roaches carry disease and can cause allergies! Imagine if we had kids. There is no way I could let them stay over there! My fiance’ says that this didn’t happen when he was a kid. (He grew up in this house.) I kind of don’t believe him, though. He doesn’t want to talk to her about it. Any advise out there????
Post # 3
My grandma used to have beetles crawl up from underneath the carpets at a certain time of year. They live on a farm in a 100+ year old home. We, as kids, used to build lego houses around the ones we would fine.
Yea now that I’m older and think about it…. it gives me the heebie jeebies.
Post # 4
Ew. Yeah, I’d probably just avoid going over there, but that really *really* grosses me out.
Post # 5
I live in NYC and there is literally nothing that we can do to make sure we NEVER get them, but this sounds extreme, since we see one probably once every week or two.
It will be hard for her to manage with cats if she doesn’t want to use chemicals. Best thing to do is to keep everything as clean as possible.
She can also use boric acid, and spread that behind appliances and near any holes in the house. It works to fill any holes that you can find with caulk.
Post # 6
My apartment is periodically infested. I have sticky traps and poison out, and we see one maybe every month or so, now. It’s so disgusting and annoying, but we can’t move for like, 9 months.
Post # 7
OMG! This is so gross. I hate when I even see a spider in someone’s home. Soo gross and cockroaches are dirty bugs. I don’t really have any advice because I don’t know how you cna bring this up to her without hurting her feelings – but YES, it is gross and weird that she doesn’t seem to mind. I might not be too bothered by the roach in the bathroom – but crawling on the kitchen counters and food?!
Post # 8
In my city it’s ants. Our whole town used to be orange groves, so the houses are basically just built on giant ant hills. Every summer there would be huge ant infestations and there was nothing you could do about it. We called every exterminator in the book. I don’t know how our small dogs and cats stayed alive.
And in the town I grew up in (near Los Angeles) we’d get roaches during some season. It was just the way it was living there. We had exterminators and mom kept the house EXTREMELY clean but as a child I knew to reach my hand into the bathroom to turn on the light and wait a few seconds for them to scurry away if I didn’t want to see them.
Unfortunately, in some areas there’s really nothing you can do. I would be concerned that she doesn’t care about them in the kitchen and on the food, though.
Post # 9
It’s her house, lol. I honestly wouldn’t go back over, because one might hitch a ride back to your car or house. She can then decide whether having family members over is more important than having roaches.
Post # 10
@whitefuzzy: I’d probably just tell her exactly what you said about roaches carrying disease and that you’re concerned for their safety as well as the cat’s well being. Then I’d be careful bringing my purse, or anything that you may put down on the floor or furniture. I’d leave that stuff in the car or at home. I’ve never been freaked out by bugs/roaches/spiders because my family is from the third world, but seeing that many in a short time span and on your food would even creep me out!
Post # 11
@whitefuzzy: Ugh. You have to be so careful because those nasty things are easy to transmit from one house to another. They can get in your purse, and then you bring them home and you have an infestation too. It absolutely does have to be taken care of – it’s unhygenic and reminds me that show Hoarders (they never seem to mind roaches crawling all over them either).
I guess because it’s not your house, you don’t really have much say. You do have a say over where and your children go though, and it’s too bad FI isn’t on board. I don’t know how he could be comfortable with those conditions. Honestly, I’d get pamphlets and show her just how nasty the problem is. But if she won’t do anything, what can you do? :-
Post # 12
@MexiPino: Really????? I have never heard of that. I always thought there was something you could do about it. I certainly couldn’t live in a house that had cockroaches. The occassional ant happens, but infestations? No, thank you.
Post # 13
i couldn’t go back. I have an extreme phobia.
Post # 14
Ugh, yeah… I would just avoid that house going forward. Ignoring a roach infestation is not normal, and it actually borders on Hoarders territory (these messes all have to start somewhere!). The apartment we are currently living in is very old, and I’ve seen two roaches since I moved in – let me rephrase that – my SO saw and killed two roaches since we moved in. If it gets worse, you can bet your @$$ that I would grab my cat and exterminate the he11 out of that place!
Post # 15
oh we can have a problem at this time of year too.
difference is as soon as i spot them i put traps and poison EVERYWHERE. can’t abide them
Post # 16
@whitefuzzy: Cockroaches are a lot better than mice! They are much cleaner! Seriously, cockroaches are far less gross and, if they don’t live in a sewer, are way cleaner than mice. When I am at school, I live in a 100+ year old house that has mice. Last night, a mouse popped out of nowhere and was on my bedside table! Yuck!! We have a cat in the house and one of those mouse-repeller noise things, but it doesn’t work!
I don’t think there’s really anything you can do about the roaches at your FMIL’s house. They’re just bugs– and they won’t even bite you. But if they really bother you, you could maybe get your FI to ask her to take care of the roach problem before you guys go there again?