Post # 1
My FI told me last night that his mom wants to help him shop for my ring. Great. I think its really nice that she would want to, and a great chance for them to spend some time together and talk about the wedding and such. I’m a little scared though that she will help pick it out. The reason this scares me is because I know exactly what I want, and have shown FI many times so he knows, and I’m scared she will convince him to buy one that isn’t what I want! Her ring is nice, but nothing that I would pick. Help!!!!
Post # 3
I think the decision is up to you two whether you want her to help shop. I would be kind of annoyed if they got the ring she wanted for me. It’s not about her.
Post # 4
Ooh- I would be totally annoyed. He should pick it out himself. It’s one of the biggest gifts he’ll ever give you!
Post # 5
Ok! Exactly! I love his mom, but FI has no idea what to look for in a ring, and so I know he’ll ask her. Which is ok, if its about what does cut and clarity and stuff mean, but not when it comes to the design! I think he will trust her opinion on that, and I don’t want him too!!!!
Post # 6
wow……………. seriously? I would be very uncomfortable with that. I dunno though, prepare for the worst but hope for the best 🙂 Good luck
Post # 7
Can you go to her and tell her what you want? I mean if you act all giddy about the idea, it would be hard not to honor your wishes.
Post # 8
Eh, I understand why you’re nervous. It’s really great that she’s supportive and excited enough about your engagement that she wants to help, but I would be nervous about getting a ring that FMIL wants, rather that one that YOU want. I agree with sulaii; maybe you should show her want you want?