- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Ok I really need advice on the “etiquette” of dealing with FMIL and those people she wants to invite to the wedding. We need to send the invites out like…in the next 2 weeks. We are having an extremely low-key wedding at a local hall and, with inviting just about whoever we want, it’s not going to be more than 75 people… having enough food, enough room, etc. is not going to be an issue.
So I put together my little draft of those FI and I (and my mother) plan to invite, and left plenty of wiggle room for her to add as she so fancies. Over the…let’s say past 6 months, we’ve asked her if she’s added who she wants so we know how many invites to get. Her reply is that she hasn’t even had time to look at it. Which is totally fine: we’ve included all the family (immediate and extended) so whatevs.
So we ordered invites at the very last minute and ordered 80 of them. In the next two weeks, I need to plan on putting these together and get ready to address them. We STILL havent gotten anything from her – we only know about the family and thats it.
So my question is – should I just go ahead and send invites out to people I KNOW are invited (both sides of relatives, close friends, etc) and just hand over whats left of the invites for her to figure out herself? I don’t care who she invites, but it certainly wont be a travesty if her co-workers mom’s brother’s pet lizard doesnt get an official invite. I don’t see her adding too terribly many people as it is.
FYI – we do get along great and she’s super supportive of FI and I, but I honestly dont want to deal with hounding her to give me names and addresses.