FMIL is driving me nuts about daMMM clothes! long rant

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

It sounds like she wants to feel special and included. Could you try assigning them some colours specifically for them? Like, I would love if you would wear blue for example. Or maybe something else that would compliment the bridesmaids colours without being matching?  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My mom and DH’s mom were trying to match the decor/bridal party as well… I told her a couple of times that she was not part of the decor, she was my mother. And she should get a dress that made her feel pretty and feminine… not try to match anyone…

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

@langloiswedding2013:  Sounds like she is feeling insecure and unsure about what looks good. She is also probably worried about disappointing you as well. I can sympathize as I found it really hard to settle on my wedding dress because of those exact reasons. Haha! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@langloiswedding2013:  I do not see what the issue is.  Why can’t they just wear whatever they want?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Bwah ha ha…my MIL did something like this to me, too. She keep bugging me about what my Mom was wearing, then bought her dress (Um, Hel-LO, mother-of-the-bride picks first!), then kept asking me about what jewelry she should wear, how she should dye her hair, THEN she bought another dress, and was expecting me to help her decide the night before the wedding.

I think AnotherMrsBrown summed it up best- “Sounds like she is feeling insecure and unsure about what looks good. She is also probably worried about disappointing you as well.”

Sounds like she needs you to tell her “Hey, FMIL, this looks awesome on you. Go with this option.” And if she changes her mind, just keep breathing and try not to throttle her. 🙂

 

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