- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013 - old cheese factory
this has been going on for the last few months now. FI’s mother has been in a panic about what she was going to wear once we set a wedding date.
she went with me and FIs sister to pick out her bridesmaids dress and decided to try on dresses. she bought a dress that day. a short dress with short sleeves and no jacket…. mind you wedding is in Nov. in Oregon on the coast…. it rains A LOT and the building is old and has little to no heat.
my mother hadnt gotten to try on dresses at all up until last month (3 months after FMIL bought hers) usually the brides mother buys a dress first…. but we arent traditional at all so that didnt bother us too much.
while we were trying on dresses she kept saying she needed a pink or brown dress (wedding colors) i proceded to tell her that no, your not part of the bridal party, you dont have to match you just have to go… you can wear blue, green, purple…. as long as its not a bright color. what does she do? buys a brown dress…
she then was constantly franticly searching for shoes to go with her dress…. (i didnt even have shoes yet for my dress and im the bride) she then ordered 2 shoes online that she thought would work. they needed to have a heel as she is short, but the heel needed to be wide because she is clumsy.
once the shoes came in i went and helped her try then on to see what i thought looked best (im glad she involves me as she wants my opinion which is sweet…. but i have other stuff i need to be getting done) she keeps falling off the side of the strappy shoes because she has on nylons….. they are open toed shoes…. you dont wear nylons with open toed shoes.
she decided on one of the pairs but they werent gonna be good for dancing as she would slide off of them so we are still on the hunt for her some reception shoes….
back to my mother….. she bought her dress finally, it is a tan color as well (almost got purple but it washed her out too much) what ever, the moms are both in a lighter brown. not a big deal. but my mom chose a dress that came with a jacket and is floor length… FMIL is freaking out because she cant find a jacket to go with her dress and she is the only one wearing a short dress… lol
now to the men… we ordered the guys shirts online (western button down shirts for our semi casual country wedding) my FI and dad will be in a light stone color shirt, dad wil have a dark brown jacket and FI will have a dark brown vest, the groomsmen will be in a kahki color shirt. FMIL wants to know where we got them so she can order FI’s dad one to wear so he can match….. FACE PALM…. again he is not part of the bridal party…. he does not have to match he just has to go…. he can wear a checkered shirt, stripes, solid blue…. i dont care as long as it is not a bright color.
im so sorry this is so long but i had to get it off my chest and tell someone. how do i remind her again that HER, FIs DAD, and my MOM, dont have to match the darn bridal party? with out being rude. i feel like ive said it a billion times and have more important things to be thinking about like food! cake! getting our marriage license! getting his vest ordered. FI is leaving next week to go hunting for 2 weeks. so he will be back with a little over a week before the wedding.
lol im not pissed at her i just have too many other things on my plate than to worry about what FI’s dad is wearing or her shoes. lol thanks for listening bees!