- 2 years ago
I apologize in advance for the rant!
My FMIL and I have never really gotten along she’s over bearing, nosey and has made sure my FI knows that she doesn’t like me at all. She even told him not to marry me at one point which was just lovely. In the interesting of being the better person and taking the high road I’ve started telling her little things about the wedding and asking her questions myself instead of having my FI do it. However all she has done is try to get me to change things. The biggest thing has been the guest list. I asked her for addresses for the people on her side of the family, giving her a specific list of who we wanted and when she gave the addresses to us she had added 4 addresses on her own and told us that they also needed to be invited. Mind you she isn’t paying for anything in the wedding, my parents are. When we told her no she tried to guilt us and manipulate us any way she could think of and when that didn’t work she just pouted like a child. The lastest guest list drama involves a plus one for her mother.
My FI’s grandma has a boyfriend who was just released from prison not long ago (they actually met while he was in prison, long story) and my FI and I have never met him and were frankly uncomfortable inviting a two time felon that we’d never met to our wedding. FI had talked to his grandma and told her that and we thought everything was done and over. Then when my FI was at work and couldn’t talk I texted my FMIL to verify that the his grandma and his grandpa who are divorced were not on good terms because I was trying to come up with family seating during the ceremony. She said no they were not and that she probably wouldn’t want the ex near the boyfriend any way. That of course through me for a loop so I pointed out that it wouldn’t be an issue since the boyfrien wasn’t invited hoping the conversation would end there. No such luck.
At first all she said was oh. Then she asked if the grandpa was getting a plus one. He’s remarried so I said the invitation would be going to him and his wife and she then preceeded to tell me that if he was getting a plus one then the grandma who had been there for him his whole life should get a plus one for her boyfriend because the grandpa has never really been around for FI. I calmly explained that he was married and we couldn’t very well exclude a wife and that we had talked about it with each other and with the grandma and said that the boyfriend wouldn’t be invited. She then got herself in a snit and stopped answering my wedding related questions.
I just can’t wait to see what she does when my FI tells her that there will be no Mother/Son dance at our wedding.
Sorry again ladies I just had to get that off my chest!