FMIL is going to drive me up the wall!!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Good for your for standing your ground!  She seems like someone who if you give an inch will take a mile so it seems like you are managing everything as best as you can.

Post # 3
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Worker bee

Does your venue have security that you could have monitor Grandma’s BF?  I respect your discomfort regarding having someone you don’t know, who has a history with the law, at your wedding. But I can also see the point that it IS Grandma, and while you may not like her choice in companion, that doesn’t give you a green light to dismiss his presence for that reason alone.

Is there another family member that can be paired up with G-ma at the table? A single older uncle, a contemporary of hers within the family, an elderly aunt etc?  Someone so she won’t be “alone” at the table while Grandpa’s got his second wife sitting next to him across the room.

There are ways to approach this more equitably than “its our wedding and we say so…”  Are any of these options?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

2ndTimeForWe:  Well, I guess grandma’s whole family will be there daughter, grandson guetting married to say the least? It is not like she is invited to a bunch of people she does not know. It also sounded like it was discussed with gran and she was fine and it was FMIL who was getting her knickers in a twist.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

militarywifetobee:  Grrrr. I hate her just from the first few sentences! haha. SO happy you guys didn’t back down in all her little huffs and puffs, especiallyy when she tried sneaking in four extra addresses/guests!? What the FUCK?? How rude. She sounds like the pits. Does her FI like her? Is she married still? Did she offer ANY money towards the wedding? Or just her two cents?….Last question, (For now, I promise) why do you think she dislikes you? 

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