(Closed) FMIL is ignoring me…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is the item from her or FI’s grandmother?  If it belongs to his grandmother you should ask her.  

Post # 4
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Your wedding isnt until 2017?

Post # 7
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh haha okay I was going to say probably bc she doesnt want you to hang on to her things for 5 years lol.  I would ask her one more time and say it would mean a lot to you to have something from her side of the family, and then leave it at that.  If you dont hear back just move on.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Bostongrl25:  Contact his grandma directly. Stop by for a visit or call her. Let her know how important it is to you to have something from her borrowed. I bet she will be flattered.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with the other bees and would ask his grandmother directly. If his mom is as scatterbrained as you say you won’t even have to deal with her forgetting once again. Maybe she has ADD. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bostongrl25:  okay.  Can you at least call her to find out where the jewelry is?  Then you can let FMIL know. Wink

But seriously, I don’t know how many times I’d keep asking… there comes a point when you just have to let stuff go.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Bostongrl25:  I think that the real question is: is she doing this on purpose or is she just being scatterbrained?

To be honest, I’d give it one more try, but I’d say something like “I don’t want to be annoying, but it would mean a lot to me if my something borrowed could be from FI’s family.  Have you had a chance to talk to Grandma yet?” 

If she says that she has done nothing, I would say “Okay.  My mom/family/whomever has offered me xxxx.  I’m just going to go with that.  Thanks.”  

People like this really bug me however…I should say that.  Especially when this behaviour occurs all the time and about everything.  It’s so passive aggressive to me. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that when you’re just trying to be nice and inclusive.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Bostongrl25:  Yeah…I know about thoughless people.  It’s difficult because they often mean well, but come across as jackasses.  lol  

One more time is following up with the over of finding out “tomorrow”; not nagging.  If you get no satisfaction, then I’d shut it down.  I would let her know that you’re going with something else…that might shock her into doing something and then there won’t be super awkwardness on W-Day if she shows up with something and expects you to wear it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Bostongrl25:  Why would you put a fake date for your profile? seems silly.

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