(Closed) FMIL is insisting I invite someone, but don’t like them

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Cut them from the list and move on. Does FMIL know that you don’t get along very well with these people? I would have your FI call her and explain the situation and why you won’t be able to invite them.

Post # 5
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Then I think now may be the time to explain! You shouldn’t have people at your wedding that you hate, that’s not okay. You need to spend your day surrounded by people you love and who love you.

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m with bakerella… Cut them from the list.  I had a similar situation with my FMIL, and I simply explained to her that I wasn’t able to invite all of my family members, so in order to keep the guest list to a manageable number, we unfortunately couldn’t invite everyone.  Family is more important to us, so in the event she said that she would pay for them to be at the reception, we had others we’d still invite before that couple.  After that, if the conversation continues your FI should take over and handle the situation.  Thankfully, our situation didn’t get to that point.

 

Good luck!

Post # 7
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Cut them from the list.  Explain to FMIL you aren’t close with those people and you don’t have the space for them.  End of story.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Agreed, absolutely remove them from the list.  You shouldn’t have any one at your wedding who makes you and your FI uncomfortable.  Just ask your FI to let your FMIL know that they will not be invited so she doesn’t put her foot in her mouth and discuss the wedding with them.  If she pushes back just let her know that it’s not up for discussion and you were only telling her as a courtesy, not asking her permission.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d stand my ground on this one, they’re not getting invited- the end.  Given ALL of the facts you stated, I wouldn’t even think twice about it.  I’d have your FI tell his Mother that it just can’t happen.  Hopefully she respects that and moves on.

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