(Closed) FMIL is making me reconsider my wedding. (LONG!)

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Wow, just…. wow. I am so sorry. What a terrible, unhappy woman.

I would have the wedding and invite her to it, but don’t involve her in any other way (e.g. dress shopping). If you don’t have the wedding, that’s exactly what she wants.

Post # 4
1554 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would talk again with FI and tell him that if he doesnt put her in her place, you will. You can’t let that woman disrespect you.

Have the wedding, but dont involve her in any way.

Post # 5
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Could you have a (small) engagement party and see what happens? Invite your family and his famly for diner so they can meet without having to worry about others witnessing whatever events may occur. If it goes that horribly, then there is your answer. If everything is civil, then go for the wedding and hope it works out the same.

Post # 6
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Have you ever been direct with her? Good for your FI for standing up for you but I think it’s your turn to tell her how you feel. 

Post # 7
1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Time for FI to tell her he cheated and it was HIS fault, and that if she ever brings that up with you again, HE will not be in contact with her again.  It needs to be clear that if she wants a relationship with her son, she needs to respect his (future) wife.  If she causes any kind of scene at the wedding, I’d threaten that she can never meet her future grandkids.

But I’m also very strongly in the camp that just because you’re related doesn’t mean you get to pull crap and doesn’t guarantee a relationship. 

And do noooot let her be involved in the wedding planning at all.

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