- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Okay, so I have a bit of an issue with my future MIL. As some of you may know, we’re getting hitched in Las Vegas and She told us that she would throw us a wedding reception when we come back home so we could celebrate with our families. Well, our wedding is in October of this year (which is only like 6 months away) and I’m really getting worried that not one single thing has been taken care of yet for the reception cuz I know many people book like a year or more in advance for reception halls.
I told my FI that he needs to talk to his mother because she is putting everything off (and he has agreed cuz he is also upset). She made plans with us twice to go look at a reception hall and she hasn’t even called them yet to set up an appointment. I’m really starting to get upset here, but I’m trying to stay calm and not let it get to me. This is adding a good deal of stress to my life though.
I’d really like to have a reception, but if she can’t fully commit to giving us one then I don’t want to have one at all. Maybe I’m not being understanding enough here (I don’t know) cuz after all she did agree to pay for the entire reception (which is saving us so much money).
I just don’t know how to deal with this, but I think she needs to know that we need things to move a little faster in the planning of the reception. I would talk to her myself, but I have only met her a few times and don’t know her well so I don’t think it’s appropriate for me to have this discussion with her. I think it’d be better if my FI talks with her since he has known her all of his life.
I really hope it doesn’t come to having to call off the reception entirely and I don’t want to create a bad relationship between my FMIL and I. My FI told me that she likes me and definitely doesn’t have an issue with me so I really have no clue as to why she’s doing this. She has a crazy work schedule I know because she’s a nurse who often has to work the graveyard shift, but she has experience with planning receptions because she planned out her daughter’s a few years ago so she knew what she was getting herself into.
Has anyone else had to deal with something like this?