- 7 years ago
This is like an addition, sort of, to my story about Future Mother-In-Law not wanting to let future nephew (C) go home to Future Sister-In-Law. She is being so annoying about C, and I really don’t want to deal with her if I ever have a child because it would end up in our relationship souring, I just know it would. Right now, we have a good relationship, but I will not be able to handle her if I have her grandchild.
C is not two yet. He will be next week, though. However, Future Mother-In-Law talks to him (and her other grandchild) about things they do not understand. Right now, she is explaining to C that FI’s dog attacked another dog and the dog ended up in the hospital for a week. I can guarantee that C doesn’t understand any part of her explanation, besides the dog’s name, because he just keeps repeating the dog’s name while she is going on and on about stitches and spending the night in the hospital.
Fiance does not have a child, never has, and neither do I. Neither one of us agreed to keeping C today, but we did anyway. It should never be our responsibility to care for someone’s child when we are so reproductivally responsible. Fiance made me so proud because he took care of C all by himself, all morning long. When he had to cut the grass, he took C outside to ride on the lawn mower with him. Then, I left for a couple of hours. When I came back I noticed a teeny, tiny scratch on C’s nose. I thought it was dirt, orignally. No big deal, though, he’s a kid. He gets hurt.
Future Mother-In-Law just came home from work and immediately noticed the scratch (I mean, seriously tiny), like I knew she would. “OMG! What happened to your nose?!” FMIL went on and on about a damn scratch on C’s nose like it was the end of the world. Then, she started asking him how it happened. He cannot coherently explain how it happened because he is a baby. Instead, when you ask him a question, he repeats you. So, she says, “Did (the dog) scratch your nose?” and C said, “(the dog) scratch my nose?” Then she asks, “Did you get scratched on a toy?” C then replied, “Scratched on toy?” He literally did not know what he was saying, he was just repeating everything Future Mother-In-Law said.
Then, Future Mother-In-Law put C in his high chair for a banana. I’d already told her I’d given him TWO bananas after his nap, later in the day. As C was scarfing down his banana (the kid can eat more than me!) Future Mother-In-Law was like, “Has he not eaten at all today?” Umm, yeah, we starved him all day! You figured us out, lady, we starved the baby AND cut his nose (or didn’t watch him and let him get cut).
After that incident, Future Mother-In-Law was like, “Omg, his cheeks are sunburned! His cheeks are redder than they were at the beach!” I have been with C all day, save for a couple hours this afternoon. His cheeks are not red from sunburn. He’d just came in from outside, where he was playing pretty hard, and his cheeks were red from exertion. Still, FMIL kept ragging on Fiance for letting C get sunburn. Please let me repeat that the child is NOT sunburned. When we were at the beach SHE let him get sunburned on his cheeks and shoulders, though (funny how she claimed his cheeks were redder now than at the beach. I would post a picture of the beach and now, but I don’t want to reveal his identity).
Every little thing is such a big, huge deal to her. When you have children, you can’t afford for every little thing to be an end-of-life crisis, you will lose your sanity that way! I don’t have kids and even I know that! I guess it was how I was raised. My mom didn’t make a big deal about anything unless it was dead ass serious. The only time she ever freaked out was when I got my head busted open with a rock. Scratches, bruises, and other minor things were no big deal in my house. Because they shouldn’t be, unless there is reason to suspect abuse.
If I have a kid, I can’t have someone in my ear constantly carrying on about every little thing imaginable! She gets so mad at Future Sister-In-Law for the stupidest things. Like, when we were preparing to go to the beach for THREE days, Future Mother-In-Law bought C about six outfits. Still, she was pissed that Future Sister-In-Law didn’t pack at least four extra outfits. The kid ended up staying in swim trunks or pajamas the entire trip! If he so much as coughs, it is something serious and he needs to go to the doctor NOW! If he gets a little stain on his shirt, it’s gotta be changed immediately (definitely wouldn’t let my kid go around dirty, but a stain on a child’s clothing is inevitable). It’s just so stressful and I guess I understand why Future Sister-In-Law never really comes around, which is sad =[